Why You Should Never Bet On Your Date’s Potential
Posted on June 7, 2007 - Filed Under Dating Tips, First Dates, Inner Game, Preventing Breakups, Relationship Tips, Staying Together, Where To Meet Women
“Why You Should Never Bet On Your Date’s Potential”
As a dating coach, a dating mistake I see people
make all the time is that people will often bet on the
“potential” of a girlfriend or boyfriend rather than
what’s in front of their eyes.
For example, guys often think, “This girl may
be a bit of a bitch…but she’s super hot. Maybe if
I tame her enough she will make a good girlfriend.
This way I can show her off to all my friends.”
Or…a woman may think, “This guy is a jerk
but I am very attracted to him. Maybe if I work harder
I will be able to turn him into a family man.”
But you know what? 90% of the time, things
don’t turn out the way these guys and girls want
them to.
Remember that one of the fundamental rules
of my “Smart Dating System” is that you cannot expect
to change a person. You have to take them for who
they are.
So if a woman is a bitch, don’t expect to
date her and turn her into a nice woman.
Instead, find a hot woman who is NOT a bitch.
Or if you can’t find one, settle for a woman who’s
pretty good looking but VERY nice to you.
Or…if a man is a jerk, go find yourself
a man who is NOT a jerk.
My years of experience (and thousands of
case studies) have shown me that you can rarely
change a person’s character. So if you are betting
your whole future on changing a person, you’re
taking on a HUGE risk.
As Warren Buffett says, “Price is what
you pay, but value is what you get.” You can
speculate on the “potential” of a life time mate
all you want, but it’s much more practical to
look at what the person is NOW (in terms of
character) and see if you could still be
with the person for life if the person could
never change.
If the answer is “yes”, then you’re
ready to have a relationship with that person.
Otherwise, keep looking!
For more down to earth advice on dating
and relationships, sign up for my free dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
- Marius Panzarella
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