What If Other Guys Are Having More Success Than You In Dating
Posted on April 2, 2008 - Filed Under Dating Tips, Inner Game, Parties, Social Life
“What If Other Guys Are Having More Success Than You In Dating”
If you constantly see other guys having more success
than you in dating, here’s a question I would like you to
ask yourself, “What are they doing that I am not?”
You see, many guys write to me to tell me how
upset they are at life because they are not getting the
same kind of success that other guys are getting. They
like to blame their looks, money, height, or even
childhood. The just love going on and on about how
other guys have things easier because of various
reasons.
But what they usually fail to see is WHY
other guys are having more success beyond the external
facts. They almost always fail to see what I personally
care about: What it is that the successful guys are
doing that they are not.
I’ll give you a small example. Two guys, Dick
and Harry, go to a party together. Dick is slightly
better looking than Harry. When they get there, Dick
acts sociable and talks to everyone. He also flirts
with the girls. Harry, on the other hand, sits in
a corner and doesn’t talk to anyone. When a woman
approaches him to chat with him, he manages to talk
for fifteen seconds before he runs out of things to
say.
Can you guess who’s going to end up with
a woman that night?
But if you ask Harry why he didn’t meet
anyone, he will probably tell you because it’s
because he was with his handsome buddy Dick.
He’ll tell you that women love Dick because
Dick is very good looking, but he will
conveniently leave out that fact that he acted
like a wallflower for most of the night.
He’ll also tell you that he had “flirted
with a woman but it didn’t work”, when the
whole conversation had lasted 2 minutes
and the women had left because he was not
being responsive to her.
In my experience as a dating coach,
action defines people. So when you see other
guys doing better than you, rather than just
writing it off as a genetic difference,
think about what they are doing that you’re
not.
If they are flirting but you’re not,
obviously you should flirt more.
If they are more sociable than you
are, obviously you should be around people
more.
If they spend more time meeting
women than you do, perhaps you should consider
going out more often as well.
The point is to duplicate their actions
until you are just as successful.
It may take a bit of work…but it really
works.
Of course. One quick way to do that
is to get my “Smart Dating Course” because it is
pretty much a model of how successful smart
daters act. If you follow everything in the
course, your success is going to improve regardless
of your looks, wealthy, and height. You can get it
at:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/smartdatingcourse.html
For more dating tips, sign up for my
free dating tips newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
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