What Breaking Up And Getting Back Together Really Means
Posted on September 3, 2007 - Filed Under Breaking Up, Dating Tips
“What Breaking Up And Getting Back Together Really Means”
A lot of people think that it must be “true love”
when a man and woman keep on getting back together after
breaking up. They think it means the couple love each
other so much that they can’t stay away from each other
for too long. All the break-ups and complications just mean
they are the modern equivalents of Romeo and Juliet.
As a dating coach who has seen lots of cases over
the years, I’m afraid I do not agree with this rosy view.
I actually think that if a couple keeps on breaking up
and getting back together, it’s a sign that maybe the
couple should NOT be together after all.
Think about it. If you really belonged together,
then you shouldn’t have broken up so many times in
the first place. Instead of breaking up and getting
back together so many times, you should have been happily
married by now. The fact that you have never been able
to STAY together for long is a sign that your relationship
has too much drama involved.
If you have trouble staying together, it means
one of two things. You guys either do not have the
skill to stay in a relationship together, or you guys
simply do not have the right personalities to stay
together without clashing.
If you belong in the first category, then you
should make a commitment to start working on the
relationship together. Make it clear that the next break-up
will be permanent. Go see a relationship or marriage
counsellor if you have to. Do everything you can to
work on the relationship. This is your last chance.
If you belong in the second category, then you
should really look for another partner. Character is hard
to change and if your personality clashes too much with your
partner’s, it’s a sign you need to find someone who is
more compatible with you no matter how high the attraction
is. (As I say all the time, just because you are attracted
to a person doesn’t mean you should be with them, just
like drugs may make you feel good, but it doesn’t mean
you should do drugs.)
Here’s a little meditation for you to do. Let’s
say you have been on and off with your partner for eight
years. Assuming you live to 80, that’s about 10 percent
of your life gone. What could you done with that time
had you found another partner who is MORE COMPATIBLE
with you? Would you have been happily married by now?
Would you have had more time to spend on other areas of
your life? Would you have been a more productive person
if you didn’t have to spend so much time and energy
on a CRAZY relationship that is *still* going nowhere
today?
Think about that for a minute.
Now…think about your future…
Are you ready to spend ANOTHER eight years of
your life on a relationship that has gone nowhere in the
past eight years, especially when you may not even stay
together in the end because your personalities clash
too much? Don’t forget that permanent baggage is added
to a relationship every time you break up and get back
together. So your chances of staying happily ever after
will DECREASE each time you get back together.
Think about this really hard, as it *will* affect
your life!
For more dating tips, sign up for my newsletter
at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
Related Posts:
"What If You Are Not Sure If She Likes You" If you're not sure if a woman likes you, it means only one thing: You haven't advanced enough. According to my "Smart Dating Course", dating ...
"How To Tease A Woman Sexually" Here is a routine you can use to tease a woman sexually. This routine is great for bringing back a lost spark to a dying relationship. 1) Have a lot of fun ...
"What If A Woman Tells You She Is Not Ready For A Relationship" When a woman tells you she sin't ready for a relationship, most of the time she really means one of the following three statemen...
"How To Break Up With A Woman" Here's how to break up with a woman: 1) Stop having sex with her at least two weeks before you break up with her. This is VERY important! Do not sleep with ...
"What If Your Girlfriends Needs More Space" What should you do if your girlfriend tells you she needs "more space" in the relationship? Should you whine about it? No. Should you try...
Help Me By Linking To This Page:
If you found this page useful, consider linking to it.
Simply copy and paste the code below into your web site (Ctrl+C to copy)
It will look like this: What Breaking Up And Getting Back Together Really Means
