How To Compliment Women On What They Really Want To Hear

Posted by Marius Panzarella on November 12, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How To Compliment Women On What They *Really* Want To Hear”

Here’s a little tip on how to give women
compliments:

Always try to compliment on a woman’s
inner desires rather than what’s obvious.

Here’s what I have taught in my “Smart Dating
Course”: If a woman is very good looking, there’s no
doubt she has heard it many times already. There’s no
need to compliment on her looks like everybody else
does. Instead, compliment her on her intelligence.

Similarly, let’s say a girl is a real book
worm who doesn’t smile much. If you ask her to smile
for you and then tell her she has a very pretty smile,
you can bet she’ll be smiling at you every time she
sees you.

The same principle works for couples in a
relationship. Think about what your partner is
working hard towards, and give them positive
encouragement for those things. This will be a
hundred times more powerful than complimenting on
things they are used to hearing from everybody
else already.

By the way, most of the “flattery tips” in
this chapter can be used outside your relationship as
well.

For example, let’s say you know a guy who’s
very intelligent but a bit overweight. You know that
he’s been trying to lose weight. Which of the following
lines do you think will have a greater impact on him?

“You’re very intelligent. I am glad to have
your help.”

Or…

“Whoa dude. What happened? Have you been losing
weight? What happened to your gut?”

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How to Give At Ultimatum Without Really Giving An Ultimatum

Posted by Marius Panzarella on July 6, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How to Give At Ultimatum Without Really Giving An Ultimatum”

Last time I showed you why as a Smart Dater you
should not have to offer an ultimatum in order to save
a relationship. But let’s say you haven’t been my reader
for long and did not know enough about relationships to
“contain the damage” before you finally found me, here’s
an alternative to seeking an ultimatum. This tactic will
let you give something similar to an ultimatum that will
not make you lose your power.

1) Talk to your partner and express your feelings
on the issue. Tell him or her how the issue is affecting
you. Don’t force the person to change. Just express your
point of view, let your partner you’ve hurting, and then
leave the scene.

2) Sit back and observe. If the person changes,
good. Otherwise…

3) As soon as you catch your partner whatever> again, break up. Don’t hesitate. Just break
up and leave.4) If your now ex-partner feels bad, good.
Give it some time for them to freak out and to chase
you back.

5) If they do not care at all, then they do
not deserve you anyway. (In this case, giving them
an ultimatum would not have helped anyway because they
would have just ignored it.)

Unlike a verbal ultimatum, this tactic will
not make you as the “obstacle” standing between
your partner and what your partner really like.
What’s more important, you’re NOT forcing them to
make a change. (As I always say, external motivation
never lasts for long.) Rather, you’re asserting your own
power by refusing to deal with their bullshit. This
way, should they change, they are not doing it because
you forced them to. They are doing it because *they*
want to.

It makes a huge difference!

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Using Money To Attract Women

Posted by Marius Panzarella on June 19, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Using Money To Attract Women”

Last time we talked about how you should not envy
the good looking guy’s advantage in the dating game. Today
we will talk about how the same principle applies to
guys with money too.

Even a fool would know that having a lot of
money *will* help attract women to you. There’s no
question about that.

But if money is the only thing you have,
then watch out: Just like the good looking guy,
you may be in for a rude awakening one day.

First of all, there’s no guarantee that
your fortune will last forever. There are *many*
readers on my list who are “ex-millionaires” -
guys who have made it and then lost it all. When
they were rich, women swarmed all over them. But
as soon as they lost their shirts, the same women
left them for other men.

Secondly, even if you manage to keep
your fortune, if you only use money to attract women,
then chances are, the women who are going to be
drawn to you will be the gold diggers and other
women with bad character. These women will
give you a LOT of trouble in the long run.
In some states, they can even have a love affair
with another man, get a divorce, and STILL get
a lot of money from you.

Lastly, it is very easy for a man with
money to practice down-dating, which is often a
recipe for disaster.

So…what should you do if you don’t have
a lot of money?

Here are some rules to follow:

1) Make yourself, not your money, the focus.

Instead of using your money to attract
women, focus on your PERSONALITY and INTELLIGENCE -
the things that allowed you to accumulate your
wealth.

2) Be careful of gold diggers.

Watch out for gold diggers. Get together
with the wrong woman and you wallet take a big hit.

3) Make sure you have other qualities.

Money may get you into the door, but to
keep a woman attracted to you so that she doesn’t
cheat or leave you, you need to have more
“substance” than just having deep pockets.

(Note: If you read the papers, you will
find a lot of victims of gold diggers are men
who have inherited their money or struck gold
through “circumstance” such as achieving sudden
stardom or selling stock options at the peak of
a major stock bubble. Guys who accumulate their
wealth “the long way” are usually too smart to
fall for gold diggers. Those are the guys I
want you to emulate if you’re very rich.)

4) Raise your romantic intelligence.

Make sure you educate yourself about
women and raise your romantic intelligence.

You can do that by signing up for my
dating newsletter and also by downloading my
“Smart Dating Course”

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10 Signs A Woman May Have Character Problems

Posted by Marius Panzarella on June 15, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“10 Signs A Woman May Have Character Problems”

Here are 10 signs a woman may have
character problems.

1) She falls in love WAY too fast.

When a woman advances WAY faster than most
women do, watch out. It may not mean you’re lucky,
it may mean you’re dealing with a psycho. Watch out
for her either dominating your life completely or
falling out of love just as fast.

2) She treats her family badly…

Watch out for women who treat their family
members badly or say bad things about them. Eventually
she’ll treat you that way too.

3) She likes to blame the world.

If a woman blames the world for everything
instead of taking responsibility for her out actions,
you can be sure there’ll be LOTS of drama in your
life when you start dating her.

4) She’s on drugs.

Drugs are bad and will mess up a woman’s
mind, period. And if you are a heavy drug-user,
I suggest you seek help too.

5) She’s an alcoholic.

In the past I have been flamed by readers
for advising against dating alcoholics. To all you
alcoholic-lovers out there, I am sorry to offend you
but I still stand by what I have said. It’s okay to
date an alcoholic who’s been clean for a few years, but
it is NOT okay to date a woman (or man) who is still an
alcoholic.

6) She hangs out with the wrong crowd.

As I have mentioned in the past, you can
often judge a person’s character by looking at their
choice of friends. So if your new girlfriend hangs
around with the wrong crowd, watch out.

7) She plays mind games from the start.

If you can “sense” a woman is playing
mind games with you, chances are, she is.

Stay away.

8) Her income or living space do not
justify the lifestyle she has.

A little surprised that she can afford
all the nice clothes and makeup when she lives
in a hold or works a bad job? It’s a sign that
she’s a gold digger and has at least one other
man supporting her.

Always be cautious about home who
lifestyles do not match with their income or
home. Even if she is NOT a gold digger, you
don’t want a woman who wastes all of your
income on handbags and fancy gowns when you
get married.

9) Her stories don’t match up.

Do her stories seem to not match up?
Watch out? She could be a chronic liar.

When dealing with liars and cheaters,
follow my two-strike rule. First time, you
let her off with a warning. Second time, it’s
over!

10) Your friends tell you there are
things wrong with the woman.

Friends are usually less-biased than
you are since they are not in love with your
girl. If everybody starts telling you how they
think your new girlfriend is a slut or a
manipulative bitch, it’s time to take a step back
and see why they feel that way.

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How To Compliment Women Without Losing Your Power

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 31, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How To Compliment Women Without Losing Your Power”

Today I am going to show you a way to compliment
women without losing your power.

It’s really quite simple…

Instead of trying to flatter a woman with compliments,
try to “approve” her with compliments instead!

Although the compliment itself may carry the same
meaning, if you say it with an “approving tone” instead
of a “sucking up tone”, you will not lose any status or
power by saying the compliment.

Let’s look at some examples of the “flattery”
compliment:

1) “You look so hot in that dress…”

2) “You are a very intelligent woman.”

3) “You must be a model.”

4) “You have a very sweet voice.”

These flattery compliments are not “bad.” But if
you use them too often, a woman will lose her romantic
respect for you.

Now let’s look at some examples of the “approval”
compliment:

1) “Not bad, not bad at all!” (Give her a kiss,
hold her close, and smell her.)

2) “You’re pretty smart. What are your plans
for the future?”

3) “You look pretty good. Better than some of
the model friends I know.”

4) “You have a very sweet voice. Ever thought
of taking voice lessons?”

See how the underlying meanings are the same,
but you’re not losing your power by over-complimenting
the woman any more?

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women (and make them fall in love with you), sign up
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Do Not Set Into A Routine Too Quickly If You Want Your Relationship To Last

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 27, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Don’t Set Into A Routine Too Quickly If You Want Your Relationship To Last”

If you would like a relationship to last, then something
you should always remember is to not settle into a routine too
quickly.

A quick way to kill the excitement in your relationship and
be well on your way to a breakup (or infidelity) is by settling into
a boring routine by doing things such as:

- Always doing the same things for dates.

- Always going to the same restaurants.

- Always going to the same places.

- Always meeting on a certain day at a certain
time…week after week.

- Always saying the same things to your partner.

- Always doing the same things to your partner.

Etc, etc, etc. You get the idea!

As tempting it may be to settle down and stay within
your comfort zone so that you never have to take any risks
with your partner, try to keep things exciting so that there
are times when you don’t know what will happen on a date
because you “have never been there” before. Try to keep things
fresh and exciting and do something “new” at least once a month.

Your relationship may depend on it!

Here are some ideas:

1) Try to go to different places for dates.

2) Go to different restaurants and try different
foods. Don’t order the same dish every time.

3) Don’t always meet on the same days of the week
at the same time.

4) Be playful and continue to be a challenge.

5) Don’t take your partner for granted.

6) Be creative when you make out.

7) Have little surprises.

Keep things exciting, and you won’t be able to keep
yourselves off each other. Keep things the same all the time,
and eventually the chemistry will drop and the relationship
will die!

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What If A Woman Tries to Stall A Date

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 23, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“What If A Woman Tries to Stall A Date”

If a woman tells you she has to “think” before she
agrees to go out on a date with you or to become your girlfriend,
don’t fall for it.

It’s a stall!

Think about it, if a woman REALLY wanted to see you,
she would have said “YES!” immediately. She wouldn’t have told
you she needed go home and “think” about it.

The reason she has to think about it is because she
is trying to STALL you and buy herself some more time to
reject you.

Here’s a good metaphor.

I want you to pretend you’re being called by one of
those telemarketers. The person on the other side of the
line asks you if you have the time to do a survey. You
don’t want to do it, but at the same time you do not want
to hurt the telemarketer’s feelings. So you tell the guy you’re
busy at the moment. The telemarketer then asks if there’s a
better time to call back. You tell the telemarketer to call
back a week later, even though you know you will still be
reluctant to do the survey then.

Guess what? You’ve just stalled the telemarketer!

If you’re brave, if you feel like you’re being
stalled, try asking a woman if she does want to hang out
at all. Tell her it’s okay if she doesn’t want to.
Some times, that will actually turn things around and
turn her “no” into a “yes.” (Reverse Psychology!)

But the best way to avoid getting stalled is to
make sure you have GREAT CHEMISTRY with a woman before
you ask her out.

Remember: If she’s attracted to you enough, she’ll
be WAITING for you to ask her out!

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Do Passion and Attraction Always Drop In A Relationship?

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 22, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Do Passion and Attraction Always Drop In A Relationship?”

A common myth I hear all the time is that passion and
attraction always turn into commitment and friendship over time.

I strongly disagree.

After years of experience of working with couples
around the world, I can tell you that in every relationship that
lasts, there’s always a certain amount of passion and attraction.

Even though the passion may not be as strong as when the
couple first met, there will STILL be attraction and chemistry…

Without this chemistry, a relationship will quickly turn
into nothing more but a “friendship”. When that happens, the
passion will die, the relationship will become hollow, and both
parties will be more tempted to look for “fun” outside the
relationship.

Here’s what I believe in:

The couple that plays is the couple that stays.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together with a
person, be it months, years, or decades. If you want a healthy
relationship, you must NOT become lazy and let the romance die.
You have to keep it going.

With that said, here are a few ways to romance your partner:

1) Have a candlelight dinner.

2) Go star or moon gazing.

3) Compliment your partner in front of other people.

4) Hug and your partner when they come home.

5) Give your partner a terrific massage.

6) Surprise your partner by doing their chores without
asking. Use the free time to snuggle.

7) Have a picnic.

8) Flirt with your partner and be playful.

Spend time to have fun with your partner every week,
no matter how busy or stressed you may be!

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How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 17, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How To Attract Women By Asking Them For Favours”

Here’s a little exercise I would like you to
try:

Try to ask for tiny favours from women you have
rapport with whenever you can.

There are a few reasons for this exercise.

First of all, most guys are more comfortable
with DOING favours for women instead of ASKING them for
favours. By getting you to actively ask for favours from
women, I am trying to get you to break out of your
shell.

Secondly, asking women for favours will allow
them to INTERACT with you, which is REALLY important
if you’re trying to attract them.

Here’s a bit of human psychology: We usually
grow to like the people we help. After you have
helped someone, you will generally find yourself liking
them more than you did before. This is your ego’s way
of telling you that you have done the right thing by
helping the person. This REALLY helps in dating, as
the woman will think, “Hmm. This guy can’t be that
bad if I let him borrow my pen.” While a small
step like this is insignificant on its own, if you
add MANY such small steps together, they will become
a very powerful attraction force.

Finally, asking for favours will allow you to
“pay back” a woman with compliments and dates. It is
a LOT easier to “thank” a woman by taking her out
for a cup of coffee to than to ask her out directly.

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How To Turn A Stranger Into A Friend

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 16, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How To Turn A Stranger Into A Friend”

I often stress the importance of expanding
one’s social circle in my dating newsletter, Smart
Dating Course, and my dating blog column. So today,
I am going to teach you how to turn strangers into
friends. Use these tips to expand your social circle.

When you meet a new person (male or female),
try to:

1) Start with a bit of fluff talk.

“Yeah…it sucks to wait in line, doesn’t it.”

“So why do you have a laptop with you?”

“What do you do?”

2) Act impressed by them, no matter what they tell
you.

“Really? I have always wanted to become a…”

“Really? My friend Joe is a
too…Maybe you’d know him.”

3) Ask them for their expert opinion in their field.

“So what do you think of…”

4) Now go deeper in the conversation by figuring out
who they are and what they want in life.

Do you think you see yourself doing this
in five years?”

5) Encourage them to go after what they want.

“I think you should…”

6) Demonstrate a bit of social proof by talking
about some adventures you’ve had in the past.

“Yeah. I am just back from France.”

“Totally. It’s like the time I went
sky-diving and…”

7) Find out their hobbies. Search for something in
common.

“Really? I love running too. Are you doing
the sun run?”

“Really? I do Yoga too. You ever done it
in the steam room before? I almost fainted the
first time I tried that.”

8) Bring the spotlight back to them. Let them know
how much you believe in them.

“You know…about what you said earlier…
I really believe in you…”

9) If you have any information or contacts that can
help them get what they want, offer it.

“If you ever need any help, let me know.
I know a couple of people in the business…”

10) Suggest doing that something in common. OR if
you have an event coming up, invite your new friend
to come.
“Come join my group for hobby> some time. The people are great. I think
you’d like it if you really like .”

Now go out and start meeting some new friends!

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The Flirt Test – How To Tell If A Woman is Interested

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 10, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“The Flirt Test – How To Tell If A Woman is Interested”

Here’s how you can tell if a woman is interested
in you or not:

Flirt with her and ADVANCE.

If she likes you, she will flirt back or at
least not STOP you from advancing. (If she’s shy.)

But if she’s not REALLY interested in you, then
eventually she will pull back when you advance with her.
You can then take it as a sign that she is not interested.

For example, let’s say you meet a nice woman
and you start flirting with her. She flirts back a little
to tease you. But every time you try to advance with her,
she pulls back. This probably means she’s just flirting
with you casually but don’t actually like you a lot.

Or, let’s say you’re flirting with a woman and
she’s completely ignoring you. She even seems a bit
annoyed every time you try to flirt with her. Obviously,
she wants to be left alone. Respect her wish.

Finally, let’s say a woman keeps on flirting
back when you flirt with her. No matter how much you
advance, the woman is ready to flirt back. Bingo,
you’ve got a match.

This simple technique is more effective than
any technique I have seen from other dating coaches.
Learn to use it well, and you will never have to guess
“through the body language” if a woman is interested
in you again.

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When To Believe A Person Has Changed

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 9, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“When To Believe A Person Has Changed”

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So let’s say a person has been working on himself
or herself because he or she is very serious about changing.
How do we know if the person has changed?

I would follow the following rule:

Seeing is believing.

Talk is cheap. Judge the person by looking at
his or her life. See if he or she has been 100% committed
to changing. See what kind of results he or she has
achieved so far.

Don’t believe a person has changed just because
the person appears to be working on the problem. Only
believe in *actual* results. (Don’t forget that people
quit midway all the time!)

And if the person ever falls back, then the trust has
been broken and it is time to move on. (Example: A cheater
cheating again after a few months of not cheating or a junkie
doing drugs again after a few years of being clean.)

Don’t be too soft. You’ve given the person a chance and
they’ve screwed up again. It’s their fault, not yours.

Yes, I know this may sound harsh. But when you’re
dealing with character problems and your personal boundaries,
such harshness is necessary or you will be walked all over -
guaranteed. If you do not respect your own boundaries,
neither will other people…

Never forget that!

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What If All Your Friends Hate Your Girlfriend

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 7, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“What If All Your Friends Hate Your Girlfriend”

I am sometimes asked, “Marius, what if all of my
friends seem to hate my girlfriend because they think
she is bad for me?”

Well, if your friends hate your girlfriend because
of her personality (not because of race or social
class), then I am sorry to say that I have to side with your
friends without even meeting your girlfriend.

In my experience, friends are usually right when
it comes to judging a woman’s character. Since they are
not in love with her like you are, they can see through
her mask and see her flaws.

Here’s an example:

A few weeks ago a reader emailed me for help
because his friends believed his new girlfriend was
a slut, a “bitch”, and a cheater. He refused to believe
them and emailed me to see how he could get them to
get along with each other. (His girlfriend hated his
friends too and didn’t like him hanging out with them.)

Last week, he emailed me again to tell me
he just found out his girlfriend had been cheating on
him the whole time. Not only that, he actually caught
her in bed with another guy.

Seeing is believing, I guess.

Never forget that your friends and family
USUALLY want the best for you when it comes to picking
a good mate. If everybody seems to hate a woman you’re
dating, perhaps they must have a good reason.

Think about this REALLY hard if you’re in
that situation.

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