8 Tips On How To Deal With Rejection and Failure

Posted by Marius Panzarella on May 17, 2008 · Leave a Comment

“8 Tips On How To Deal With Rejection and Failure”

When you first go out to practice the dating
techniques I’ve taught you, you’re bound to
hear a few “no’s” from the women you meet. (Actually,
this is an ongoing process. You will never have a
100% success rate.) So here are a couple of ways
to make the rejections easier to take and more
valuable to you.

1) Disassociate yourself.

Look at the rejection as an event, not as a rejection
of your inner core. Think in “third-person” as if
you’re watching a movie.

2) Think about “why”.

Think about why the woman rejected you. Think back
on your actions. Were you being too pushy? Did
you not build up enough chemistry before you asked
for a date? Try to locate any potential blindspots.

3) Learn from it.

Learn from your mistakes and try to improve each time.
If you improve just a tiny bit each time, you’ll
improve a lot in the long run!

4) Try In A New Environment

If you few like a certain environment may be holding
your back, try the following: Take your practices
to a new environment and see if you get different
results.

For example, if the nightclub setting does like
work for you, try taking a few dance classes, and
so on.

5) Hang Out With A More Successful Person

How do you get smarter? By hanging out with
smarter people! They’ll be able to point out
your mistakes when you make them.

One of the best ways to get really good at something
is to get active feedback from someone who is
already good at it. It’s like playing sports.
If you constantly play against opponents that are
stronger than you, you will learn faster than if
you constantly play against opponents who are
not as good as you.

6) Make New Connections In Your Mind

Take the time to organize your new thoughts and
ideas. Make connections between different topics
and ideas that weren’t there before. You don’t
really get something until you can see all the
connections! Ask yourself questions such as,
“How does flirting fit into building attraction?”

7) Take a Break If Necessary

If you feel like you are hitting the same
wall over and over, then take a small break so
you have time to recharge. The more you push
when you’re already frustrated, the more
resistance you will build. Sometimes when you
take a small break and then come back, you will
find the obstacles will have disappeared on
its own.

8) Take the Time to Learn’

It is hard to bounce back from failure
if you don’t even have a direction. That is
why it is very important to pick up the knowledge
you need to be successful. Instead of learning
everything through your own mistakes, try to
learn everything through other people’s mistakes.

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Thanks,
Marius Panzarella

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How To NOT Make Sexy Eye Contact With Women

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 28, 2008 · Leave a Comment

“How To NOT Make Sexy Eye Contact With Women”

A complaint that I sometimes get from my
readers is, “Marius, how come women always look
at me and avoid me when I try to make eye contact?”

Well, as both someone who makes eye contact
with people all the time and an experienced dating
coach who has received many successful “eye contact
stories” from all around the world, I can tell
you that making eye contact works. Most people who
use this technique will find success with it,
so if you haven’t been having much luck with it,
then chances are, you’re probably doing something
wrong. Here are two things that I can think of:

1) You’re being intrusive.

If someone looks like they want to be
left alone, then leave them alone. If you intrude
on their personal space by looking at them non-stop
while they are busy reading or eating, of course
they are going to think you’re a freak.

2) You are staring, not making eye contact.

There is a big difference between staring
and making eye contact. Proper eye-contact is quick
and friendly. It means you’re drifting your eyes
around and giving attention to what interests you -
but only for a split second. Staring at a woman
for too long will get you the “What are you looking
at?” response.

3) You are looking too hard.

Proper eye contact is casual and relaxed.
If you’re too serious and stare too hard, you will
may across as a crazy or potentially dangerous
person. In that case, of course women will break
the eye contact and avoid you.

4) You come off as dangerous.

The “safer” you look, the more comfortable
women will be around you. By “safe”, I don’t mean
geeky. You can be a bad boy and still look safe. But
if you look or at a bit “creepy”, then women will
naturally avoid making eye contact with you at all
costs.

5) You’re not smiling.

Once you have “clicked” with the eye
contact, you should always smile. This way, a woman
can smile back. Without this, there’ll be “no next
step.” In that case, of course the situation will
feel awkward and the woman will want to break eye
contact.

6) You’re too tense.

The whole exercise should be fun and casual.
If you’re too tense, women are going to react to
your eye contact negatively because you’re acting
relaxed. So do yourself a favor and RELAX.

Now go out there and make some eye contact!

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- Marius Panzarella

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Do You Know The Weakest Link In YOUR Dating Game?

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 19, 2008 · Leave a Comment

“Do You Know The Weakest Link In YOUR Dating Game?”

You have probably heard the old adage,
“A chain is only as strong as its weakest link.”
Guess what? It totally applies to the dating
game.

One thing I have noticed over the years,
which is interesting because most men don’t think
of it enough, is that most guys fail in dating
because of their weakest link.

For example, a guy may be obsessed about
his looks. He may workout at the gym every day,
take ten minutes to comb his hair, and dresses
like a pretty boy everywhere he goes. But when
he meets a woman, he may lose their interest
after 15 minutes because he doesn’t know how
to flirt.

Or, a guy can read a lot of books
on flirting and know every trick in the world.
But because he dresses like a homeless person,
women don’t even give him the chance to speak.

Here’s the hard truth: Life tends
to snap you at your weakest link. So it doesn’t
matter how good you are with the things you are
already good at. It’s your weakest link that is
going to hold you can and stop you from getting
the girls you really want to get,

So what is YOUR weakest link?

1) Your Inner Game and Confidence

2) Your Social Life

3) Your Presentation

4) Your Social Status

5) Your Personality

6) Your Social Skills

7) Your Flirting Skills

8) Your Teasing Skills

9) Your “Advancing” Skills

10) Your Body Language

11) Your Conversation Skills

12) Your Bedroom Skills

13) Your Relationship Skills

14) Your Communication Skills

15) Your “Girlfriend Management” Skills

Really think hard about it…and point
out weak areas that you can improve on!

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for men at:

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Marius Panzarella

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Dating Tips For Guys

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 16, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Here is a quick index of the articles on this site:

Dating Tips

Confidence With Women – How to gain more confidence around women.
Conversation Tips - How to talk to women. What to say, voice tone, how to create rapport, and so on.
What To Do At Parties – How to start talking to people and become the life of the party.
What To Do At Nightclubs

– How to dance, hook up, and have a blast.
How To Flirt With Women – How to flirt with women, tease women, and act like a challenge to women.
Where To Meet Women – Where you will find lots of women to meet.
Romantic Body Language – How to use romantic body language to give yourself an edge over other guys.
Inner Game – How to conquer your inner demons and be the man women want.
How To Approach Women – How to approach women…and what to do after.
How To Get A Social Life – How to have more friends…and women.
Eye Contact – How to use your eyes to create attraction.
How To Get Phone Numbers – How to get numbers, emails, and dates from women.
How To Give Compliments – How to compliment women and melt their hearts without acting needy.
How To Be A Challenge – How to create attraction with women by acting like a challenge.
First Date Tips – How to survive a first date with any woman.
How To Hook Up – How to hook up with the women you meet.
How To Ask Out A Woman – How to get a woman to want to go out on a date with you.
Online Dating – How to use the Internet to meet women.
Kissing – How to kiss a woman.
How To Deal With Tests From Women -What to do when a woman tries to test you.

Relationship Tips

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Romantic Respect

– One of Marius Panzarella’s favourite terms, and why it is important.
Staying Together – How to stay together in a relationship.
Preventing Breakups – How to prevent a breakup from happening.
Character

– Character and why it is important in a relationship.
Breaking Up – Breakup advice such as what to do after and how to get her back.

Enjoy!

-Marius Panzarella

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6 Ways To Act Mysterious Around Women

Posted by Marius Panzarella on August 6, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“6 Ways To Act Mysterious Around Women”

Last time we talked about why you should not
boast in front of a woman you’re trying to attract. Today
I’ll show you how to act mysterious around women.

1) Show, not tell.

Try to show, not tell. For example, instead of
telling a woman you have money, just pull out a fancy
wallet. Instead of telling her you are adventurous,
casually let her play with your wallet and discover
the picture of you going sky-diving.

2) Leave out the details.

Try to leave out the details without lying.
For example, if you’re the owner of a construction company,
you can just tell her you’re in “construction”.

Give room for “eager surprises” later on.

3) Have a good general knowledge…and LOADS of common sense…

A good way to get a woman to “never figure you
out” is by knowing a little bit of everything. Just when
she figures she knows you, you surprise her by showing
you skills at something she’d never think you’d be good
at.

4) Have an exciting life…and live your purpose.

If you live a boring life, then it won’t
take a woman very long to “run out of things” to
discover about you…

Live an exciting life, and there’ll always
be things happening to you – things you can share
with a woman.

5) Show additional insight.

Know enough about the world to show some
additional insight on a particular subject that
the woman or the normal Joe may not see or
recognize. This is a GREAT way of getting
both men and women to respect you.

6) Speak just enough…but never too much.

Speak just enough to create a sense of
mystery and excitement around you, but not enough
for you the aura of mystery to drop – until
you have attracted the person.

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Marius Panzarella

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How to Give At Ultimatum Without Really Giving An Ultimatum

Posted by Marius Panzarella on July 6, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“How to Give At Ultimatum Without Really Giving An Ultimatum”

Last time I showed you why as a Smart Dater you
should not have to offer an ultimatum in order to save
a relationship. But let’s say you haven’t been my reader
for long and did not know enough about relationships to
“contain the damage” before you finally found me, here’s
an alternative to seeking an ultimatum. This tactic will
let you give something similar to an ultimatum that will
not make you lose your power.

1) Talk to your partner and express your feelings
on the issue. Tell him or her how the issue is affecting
you. Don’t force the person to change. Just express your
point of view, let your partner you’ve hurting, and then
leave the scene.

2) Sit back and observe. If the person changes,
good. Otherwise…

3) As soon as you catch your partner whatever> again, break up. Don’t hesitate. Just break
up and leave.4) If your now ex-partner feels bad, good.
Give it some time for them to freak out and to chase
you back.

5) If they do not care at all, then they do
not deserve you anyway. (In this case, giving them
an ultimatum would not have helped anyway because they
would have just ignored it.)

Unlike a verbal ultimatum, this tactic will
not make you as the “obstacle” standing between
your partner and what your partner really like.
What’s more important, you’re NOT forcing them to
make a change. (As I always say, external motivation
never lasts for long.) Rather, you’re asserting your own
power by refusing to deal with their bullshit. This
way, should they change, they are not doing it because
you forced them to. They are doing it because *they*
want to.

It makes a huge difference!

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Marius Panzarella

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Link For Success Stories From Marius Panzarella&amp;#039;s Readers

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 29, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Link For Dating Success Stories From Marius Panzarella’s Readers”

Hi. This morning I received the following
email from a long time reader of my dating newsletter:

——————————————————

I just wanted to tell you that you should put
some new success stories in your newsletters.

I personally like reading new success stories
each week just as much as I like reading Marius P’s
newsletters. They’re fun to read, and what makes them
more fun is if you show your replies to the stories
too.

You should think about it Marius, I’m sure a
lot of your readers would like it.

You can put it at the bottom like you always
do, just not the same ones over and over, and put your
reply under that to make it worth looking at. :D

- Amos E.
——————————————————

I must say I have to agree with this reader.
The truth is, I’ve been so busy writing newsletter
issues and dating articles every day that I’ve become
lazy with the success stories – I usually just copy
and paste from my old ones.

From now on, I will try to use “fresh” success
stories for my newsletter. (If you have not signed up
for my dating newsletter

Tooth & Nail yet, you should do it now!)

With that said, I do have a small collection of
“recent” success stories that I’ve compiled back in
December. They are actually on THIS site. You can read
them at:

http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/datingstories.html

Perhaps you will find a few that’ll inspire you!

- Marius Panzarella

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Developing Rapport Through Voice Tone Matching

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 21, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Developing Rapport Through Voice Tone Matching”

Here is an exercise I would like you to
do to work on your voice tone matching skills.
This is an important technique you can use to
build rapport with women.

1) Choose an unimportant situation you
don’t get about…with someone you don’t care
about.

Pick a situation where you don’t care
about the outcome at all, such as a casual
conversation on the bus or a meeting with a
friend of a friend.

2) Match their voice tone.

As you talk to the person, pay attention
to the tempo and voice tone of their voice. Try
to adjust your own tempo and voice tone until you
are matching theirs.

Now see if there is a feeling of rapport
in the conversation.

3) Mismatch their voice tone.

Next, try to mismatch your tempo and voice
tone on purpose. Notice how this impacts the
rapport.

4) Go back to matching

Finally, change back to matching the person’s
voice tone. See if you regain the rapport.

With a little bit of practice, you will
be able to build rapport by matching a person’s
voice. You will get so used to it that it
will become second nature to you. That is when you
can used my advanced conversation techniques to
“lead” a conversation with your voice tone!

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- Marius Panzarella

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Why Women May Not Respect You

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 20, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Why Women May Not Respect You”

Do women seem to always walk all over you? If so, why
does it happen?

Well…actually, let us backtrack a little bit first.

Do you know why people lie, cheat, rob, and do other
horrible things?

It’s because they know they *can*.

Bullies look for people they KNOW they can bully.

Robbers rob people who look like they are easy to rob.
Many self-defense experts stress that if you can look into the
eyes of a potential attacker without showing fear, they will
often stop and run away.

Heck, many soldiers in third world countries are
probably killing innocent people right now because they know
they “can”.

Sounds crazy? For years, psychologists have shown that
people will often do “bad” things if they know they can get
away with it. In many studies, innocent little children have
stolen candy when they thought nobody was watching, and adults
have taken money from a dropped wallet before taking it to a
lost and found box because they figured the lost and found
system would be anonymous anyway.

A more recent study has shown that just having a
poster of a pair of eyes on the wall is enough to stop people
from committing these naughty acts because they feel they are
being watched. In other words, this is hard-wired into our
genetics – we behave ourselves when our brains think there
are consequences…and misbehave when our brains think we can
misbehave.

In a relationship, it is natural for a couple to test
each other’s boundaries to see what they can “get away with.”

For example, women will often subconsciously do silly
things to see what kind of reaction they can get from a guy.
That’s part of courtship. If the guy doesn’t give the woman a
wimpy response, her attraction will go up because she knows
he has respect for himself.

Guys also do the same thing. At the beginning of the
courtship, he will often keep pushing to see how far she will
go sexually. If she is too easy, he’ll think she’s a slut.

So…if women are always walking over you and not
giving you the kind of respect you deserve, it’s because
you let them!

From now on, if a woman acts bitchy or mistreats
you, don’t be afraid of standing up for yourself.

As I always say, stand up for yourself and don’t
take any bullsh** from women, no matter how hot they are.
If a woman tells you she wants to “start seeing other
people” because she’s not sure about the relationship,
let her date other guys all she wants – by throwing her
out of the house!

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- Marius Panzarella

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Next Time You Envy A Good Looking Guy…

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 18, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Next Time You Envy A Good Looking Guy…”

Next time you envy a good looking guy for his
natural ability to attract women through his good looks,
think about what I have to say today:

In the long run, good looks won’t help. In
fact, it may even hurt you.

If you’re interested in a long-term relationship,
then no matter how good looking you are, if you don’t have
the personality or the “substance” to keep a woman, she’s
going to leave you sooner or later. Good looks will help
you get in the door, but it won’t help you keep her.

Even if you’re interested in just “playing the game,”
then having good looks will help you at the beginning…
but not forever.

I have many 30 or 40 something readers who used
to be very good-looking. In fact, some of them used to
look so good looking that they had never had trouble meeting
random women when they were in their early twenties…

But not anymore.

Everybody gets old and ugly. It’s just a fact
of life. You can delay it by exercising and eating well,
but eventually your age WILL catch up on you. Your
metabolism will slow, your hair will thin out, and your
good looks will fade.

And if you have been relying on your looks to
attract women all your life without really planning
ahead – such as getting married with a nice girl
instead of playing the field or working on your career
to improve your cumulative score – eventually you’re
going to wake up one day and realize that you have
“turned into a loser.”

When you’re in your 20’s, having good looks can
help you boost your cumulative score and get the ladies.
But in the long run, if your cumulative score relies
too much on looks, when your good looks go away you’re
going to be left with nothing. Your life will literally
be turned upside down as you go from “stud to dud” because
you never learned how to attract women through
your personality or skills.

I see it happen all the time!

Here’s the moral of the day: No matter how
good or bad looking you are, focus on your skills,
attitude, and personality.

In twenty years, they are all that’s
going to matter!

To learn how to improve your skills with women,
sign up for my dating newsletter now at:

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Thanks,
Marius

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Think Love Is All That Matters? Think Again…

Posted by Marius Panzarella on January 11, 2007 · Leave a Comment

“Think Love Is All That Matters? Think Again…”

One of the hardest things I have to
do as a dating coach is to tell a client why he
or she should NOT be with a certain person.

When a client comes to you and pays
you good money to learn how to attract a woman
or man, it is hard to disappoint the person
by telling the truth.

Nevertheless, I do it all the time,
and I almost always get a negative response
from the client every time I do it.

One of the most common reactions I get
from my clients when I tell them the truth is,
“But I don’t care. I love her and that’s all I
care about.” Some will even turn my teachings
around and say, “I am attracted to her enough
to stay with her even though everybody tells
me she is bad for me.”

Here is what I always tell these troubled
clients:

“She may feel good to you. But so does
crack.”

It’s true. There are many things in this
world that feel good that may not necessarily
be good for us, including hardcore drugs,
excessive gambling, and unprotected sex.

Just because something feels good doesn’t
mean you should do it. Similarly, just because
you’re attracted to a woman with poor character
does not mean you should chase her.

As a dating coach, I have seen *many* cases
where the going out with the wrong man or woman has
created more mental, financial, *and* physical
damage than taking heroin. (Heck, several clients
have started taking heroin as the result of being
with the wrong man or woman.)
Carefully consider who you date or marry.
The hot woman you’re seeing right now may very well
destroy your whole life in few years!

Want to learn how to attract women with
GOOD character so that you can have fun WITHOUT getting
dragged into excessive drama? Sign up for my dating
newsletter now at:

http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com

I’ll show you how to attract women – step-by-step!

- Marius Panzarella

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