How Much Romantic Intelligence Do You Have?
Posted on November 17, 2006 - Filed Under Dating Tips
“How Much Romantic Intelligence Do You Have?”
Have you heard of the term “romantic intelligence”?
Of course not! It’s a term I just invented this
afternoon!
It’s a phrase I have come up with to define a person’s
dating skills. A man with a high “romantic intelligence” will
do better with women than a man with a low “romantic
intelligence”.
For example, a nerd who has never talked to a woman
besides his mother will have a very low romantic intelligence
score, while a player who has been scoring women since he was
13 will have a very high romantic intelligence.
Just like any kind of intelligence, romantic intelligence
needs to be nourished. The nourishment process is very linear.
The sooner you pick up your dating skills, the sooner you’ll
become successful with dating and women.
In the above-mentioned scenarios, the player has an
obvious advantage over the nerd. Not because the player is
better than the nerd genetically, but because he has been
practicing his skills since he was a very young boy.
When the nerd was still playing video games in
high school, the player was already talking to girls in
the hallway and taking them out for ice-cream after school.
When the nerd was spending all his time on getting
the best sword on an online game from the safety of his
dorm room in college, the player was experimenting on how to
get girls drunk.
Fast forward to today. The nerd is now
25 years old and he FINALLY wants to get a girlfriend. So
he starts hitting the clubs and becomes extremely frustrated
when women don’t even notice him. As for the player, he is
actually an ex-player now. After playing women for 7 years,
he has finally decided to get involved in a long-term
relationship. He’s engaged to be married to a woman he loves.
From 15 to 25, The player has over 10 more years
of experience than the nerd. So is it really a big surprise
that the nerd is not as good as the player when it comes to
getting girls?
In my experience as a dating coach, a man usually
has to go through 3 stages:
1) The Discovery Stage
2) The Experimentation Stage
3) The Serious Stage
Trouble will occur if you try to skip to the next
stage before you’re ready. For example, if you have never
dated before, it’s a bad idea to marry the first girl
who shows interest in you. You may not agree with me because
you’re madly in love and you think your first girlfriend is
“the one” you want, but reality shows that your first love
or high school sweetheart is often NOT the woman you’ll
stay with for life.
Trouble will also occur if you get stuck at a
certain stage without ever moving on. For example, a LOT
of nerds in their 20’s and 30’s fall for the “seduction”
type of programs out there. They seriously buy into the
mottos of the pickup guru’s such as “never date a woman
unless you have slept with her”, “always have more than
one girlfriend”, and “never like a woman enough to be
exclusive with her.”
In my opinion, these guys are just trying to live
out experiences they never experienced back in high school
or college.
This is okay - as long as you keep it under control
and DO eventually move on. Feel free to date casually for
awhile or maybe have a few casual one-night stands if you
want - but if you want to remain in the “game” for more
than a couple of years, then you’ve gotta look at your life
seriously. Chances are, you’re trying to pick up women
in order to mend certain holes in your self-image. (I will
probably get flamed by a lot of “pickup-artists” for saying
this. But hey…I am here to spread the truth!)
Here’s the bottom line…
As a Smart Dater, if you’ve started late, then you
should accelerate your learning curve and “catch up”. Instead
of spending a few years to figure out the game, you should
do it a.s.a.p. because you’re already behind.
Now…I want you to be honest with yourself. What
stage are YOU at?
If you feel you still have quite a bit to catch-up,
then you should sign up for my newsletter and learn more
about how you can change your love life.
If you’re tired of being frustrated with your love
life…if you hate being single and lonely…if you hate
women not paying enough attention to you, then you should
sign up for my free dating newsletter right now at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
You’re going to be amazed!
- Marius Panzarella
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