One Way To Get Under A Woman’s Social Mask
Posted on May 26, 2007 - Filed Under Conversation Tips, Dating Tips
“One Way To Get Under A Woman’s Social Mask”
Here’s a technique you can use to go under a
woman’s social mask:
Cut out the idle fluff talk and find something
of substance to say.
Don’t get me wrong. Fluff talk is important.
You must learn how to make fluff talk if you want to
be a sociable person. But instead of just having every day
fluff talk that won’t get you anywhere, try to have what
I call “pointed fluff talk.”
For example, drop a strong opinion about something
during the fluff talk and see if it leads to a meaningful
discussion.
Or, ask one of the emotional connection deepener
questions that I’ve taught you in the past.
Or even drop a killer compliment to catch the
person’s attention.
Personally, my favourite technique is my
“I’ve always wanted to…” technique.
Basically, as soon as a person (male or female)
tells you what they do for a living, you act EXTREMELY
interested and say, “I’ve always wanted to learn more
about…” or “I’ve always wanted to become…”
Then you ask them, “Tell me more about…”
If they appear a bit thrown off by your
enthusiasm or if they try to act modest, compliment on
what they do and make them feel useful.
For example, once I met a girl who was a bit
confused because she had a history degree but didn’t
know what to do with it. I immediately told her how
I had always wanted to study history and how importance
history is because it “teaches people to think about
the world.” Then I asked her what she thought of
a few current political situations based on her knowledge
of history.
She immediately dropped her social mask and
allowed me to build rapport with her.
See how this is a lot more powerful than just
making fluff talk about nothing?
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great conversations at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/conversation.pdf
- Marius Panzarella
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