Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case
“Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case”
Quite a few readers have emailed me to ask for my opinion
of the George Sodini case…so I thought I’d do a quick commentary
for all the men and women on my newsletter:
1) I’ve always thought something like this would happen sooner
or later. (From some of the nutcase emails I have received.) This is
why I often tell my more “extreme” readers to seek therapy. I don’t
mean it as an insult – some guys really need help.
2) Anger is dangerous. If you see yourself becoming angry at “all”
men or women, seek therapy immediately. Blaming other people for your
failures won’t help you. It will only hurt you (and other people)
in the long run. Best case scenario is you pick up some sort of
passive-aggressiveness that makes you a useless person to society.
Worst case scenario is that you pick up a gun and take out
innocent people whom you think have done you wrong.
3) It is really not healthy to be bothered by daddy or mommy issues
by the time you are 30. There has to be a point when you admit to
yourself that you are mature enough to live life your way. Focus on
where you are going instead of where you came from! Blaming
your past won’t solve anything in the long run.
4) If you look at George Sodini’s picture, he is not a bad looking
man at all. On top of that, he has a good job and is quite intelligent
according to new reports.
However, when you watch his videos Youtube, you will find a certain
amount of creepiness. Maybe that is the reason everybody rejected
him. Not because of his looks, wealth, or social status – but
because of his personality.
5) Even his apartment is a little creepy. There is absolutely no
sense of character. It reveals no information about his life except
that it is very clean. How are women supposed to feel comfortable
in such an environment?
A man’s apartment should be congruent with his identify and image.
Having plants, paintings, and decorations will make a woman a lot
more comfortable because you will see like a “real person” instead of
a serial murderer who has just moved into the neighborhood.
6) It is important to have self-worth and strong values. As I always
say, plenty of successful people are screwed up in the head. (Intelligent
people are often a little odd.) But because they have ambitions, they
learn to control their crazy side or even use their insecurities as
their fuel for success.
If your only goal in life is to get a girlfriend or boyfriend…sorry
to say this, but you don’t deserve one.
7) It is really too bad that this case has brought out the worst in
a lot of people:
- There are numerous men and women flaming the other gender on Internet
forums
- Some dating coaches are using this as an opportunity to get backlinks
from news sites by leaving comments with links to their websites
- Some dating coaches (and their fans) are already smack-talking each other
on forums and blogs.
My view: Learn from this, but let’s not look for people to blame…
8) It is important to ask “why” and “how” instead of just letting your
emotions take over. Sometimes you may feel like you want revenge. But
when you really think about “why”, you will see that it’s very childish
and unproductive.
If someone hurts you, instead of just feeling victimized, think “why”
they hurt you before you act blindly. Once you recognize why the other
party has made a mistake, you may not be so angry anymore. Sometimes
you will see that it is much more productive to just walk away instead
of hurting the person back.
9) Learn to SHOW emotions in a healthy way before they turn into
passive-aggressiveness. The trouble with a lot of men is that they
are afraid of showing emotions. So they hide their feelings while
putting on a “we’re best friends” facade when they’re actually after
romance or sex. They keep this up until they can’t hold it in anymore
and “confess” all of their feelings out of the blue. The woman is shocked
and don’t know how to react as a result.
Flirting and creating sexual chemistry allow you to emote your
potential interests instead of putting on a facade.
10) Learn to take rejection well. Not every woman you like will like you
back, just like you will not like every woman who likes you. Everyone
has their own preferences. You can make yourself more likable through
my “Smart Dating Course”, but you will still not have a 100%
success rate.
Rejection doesn’t mean you are a loser. The only loser is a person
who can’t handle rejection!
11) Be assertive and decisive. Have a little bit of backbone. Women
don’t like guys who flip-flop between different opinions just to please
a woman – which from Sodini’s body language is what I guess he did.
12) “I want to spill my heart and tell you my life sucks” blogs are for
losers. They dramatize situations and make you feel even more victimized.
Instead of “telling” people about your feelings and failures, take
action to change and improve your habits and personality. (They are linked.)
It’s a much more productive use of your time!
For more on my dating and relationship, check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
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