How To Have Complete Control Over A Woman
Posted on May 7, 2008 - Filed Under Dating Tips, Inner Game, Relationship Tips, Staying Together
“How To Have Complete Control Over A Woman”
One dating question that I get on a regular
basis is, “Marius, how can I have complete control
over my girlfriend? How can I make sure that she will
always do everything I ask and never betray me?”
Here’s what I always write back:
“Instead of worrying about how you can
control your girlfriend, maybe you should think
about how you can fix your insecurities instead.”
It’s true. Feeling the need to always exert
full control and dominance on a woman is a sign
of insecurity. A confident man does not wake up
in the middle of the night worrying about his
girlfriend “betraying” him. A confident man does
not need to control who a woman sees, what she
wears, or what she does. He will merely know what
his boundaries are. If he feels like his boundaries
are being violated or that he is not being
respected, he will give a warning. Then if it
happens again, he will just leave.
With that said, here are a few tips
for you if you feel like things have gone out of
control in your relationship.
1) Learn to walk: Know that the greatest power
you have in a relationship is the ability
to walk away. You survived before you met your
girlfriend. You can survive again without her.
If your girlfriend has bad character, then
just walk instead of trying to change her.
2) Look at yourself: Really think if you
are being unreasonable or insecure. For example,
not too long ago a reader asked me how he can
make his wife wear loose pants instead of
jeans. First he used religion as an excuse
and claimed that Western clothing was against
his religion. (Funny thing is he could wear
them while his wife couldn’t) But of course,
it turned out he was just insecure that other
men would find his wife attractive if he had
let her walk outside in a pair or jeans. My
comment to him? “This isn’t the 12th century
anymore. The more you force your wife to do what
she doesn’t want to do, the more she will resent
you and want to run away.”
If you think you have jealousy
or insecurity problems, then please seek
professional help!
3) Know that you can’t change a person’s
character: If a woman likes to lie or sleep
around, no matter how hard you try to stop
her, she’s probably going to do it again.
4) Pick your battles wisely: You can’t
expect to win every argument or scenario.
Learn to be compromise and flexible. And
if your girlfriend never gives in on
anything, then that’s a sign of bad
character and you should consider point
1 and point 3. (Leave her and find
yourself a better woman!)
5) Improve your dating skills: If you have
good dating and relationship skills, then
you will have the confidence and knowledge
to deal with whatever problem that comes up
in your relationship. So download my
“Smart Dating Course” and my “Smart
Relationships Course“!
For more dating tips, sign up for my dating
newsletter for men at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
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