How To Be More Fun
How To Be More Fun
A common question I get from both my male and female readers is
how they can be more fun. Although most people would agree that being fun
makes other people appreciate and enjoy being around you more,
not all of us know how to do it. So here some general tips on how to be
more fun.
1) Don’t Be Judgmental
The first tip is to avoid seeing partying or having fun
as something beneath you. Many of my readers who are too serious have
trouble having fun because they see it as a waste of time. They think
that alcohol is “bad, period” (even social drinking) and that partying
is only for shallow, immature people. They simply refuse to lower their
intelligence to “that level”.
Well, guess what? There are times when you should be serious
and there are times when you should just relax and have fun. It all
depends on what your objectives are. You can’t exactly get a date or
be in a relationship by never having any fun, can you?
Bottom line: If you want to have fun, then you better see its
merits and stop seeing it as something below you!
2) Don’t Care About The Consequences Too Much
Try to be a little bit uninhibited compared to your usual self.
Don’t worry too much about the consequences unless something is
illegal or physically dangerous. There are times when you should
plan ahead and make sure you aren’t making any mistakes, and
there are times when you should just let go and do whatever
you or the group feels like doing. When you’re out trying to
have fun, thinking ahead too much means you’ll probably end
up missing out on opportunities instead of creating cool
stories you can tell your grandkids one day.
3) Don’t be a Downer
Don’t be the guy who ruins the fun for other people. When people
are TRYING to have fun, the last thing they want to hear is
how much you think the idea sucks or how bored you are. People
like hanging around positive people. Keep that in mind next time
you want to say something negative!
4) Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
You should also avoid being the guy who makes everything
difficult for everybody else. Be flexible and don’t make
everyone change plans just because of you. Whine enough
and people will think twice before inviting you out.
5) Don’t Turn Down Everything
Here’s an exercise for you to do while you’re learning
how to be fun: Do NOT turn down any invitation unless it is
dangerous or illegal. It’s amazing how many people claim they
want to have more friends when they always say “no” to every
social event or activity.
Think about it. Who’s more fun? The person who always says
“no” or the person who always wants to stay in? Who do you think
the group will invite back the next time?
6) Try Different Things
Seek new experiences and try new things. Fun people
are usually the ones who line up first for the crazy ride
at the amusement park or the first to try a new restaurant.
Go to where the fun is, and invite others to come with you.
You’ll be seen as a fun person in no time.
7) Push Your Own Boundaries
Be willing to push things further than anyone else.
Take risks and do things you normally wouldn’t do. Even with
things you would do, try to push it further than everyone
else. Be the crazy one. Go on a difficult hike instead of an
easy hike. (Don’t do anything unsafe, of course.) Make slightly
more outrageous or edgy jokes. Be a just little bit louder than
the crowd. Just constantly push your own boundaries and see
what you can get away with.
8) Be Spontaneous
Embrace uncertainty and make quick decisions on the spot.
Let the spurs of moment impulses run wild and do things that are
unexpected. Let your plans change based on the environment.
Let situations flow freely without too much logical input.
9) Be With the Moment
Remember that you are trying to have fun, not to
analyze a situation or come up with perfect planning. Stay
with the moment, have as much fun as you can, and forget
the rest. Leave work, worries, and your regular “logical”
mindset for later. Your mind can’t be at multiple places
at once. So focus on the activity in front of you and
enjoy it!
10) Raise Your Energy
Be more animated and just a little bit louder than
usual. Don’t be afraid of taking up space. Be like a kid -
Loud, excited, eager, and a bit silly.
11) Learn Tricks and Talents That Make You Fun
If possible, learn little things that you can use to
build your social proof. They can be legitimate “show-off”
skills like music (piano, guitar, or drums, etc) and dance,
or they can be corny things like magic, impressions, and
comedy.
12) Appreciate Life and Other People
Finally, try to appreciate life and other people in
general. It’s hard to have fun if you don’t appreciate what’s
around you at all.
For more tricks and techniques on boosting your inner
game, get my “Confidence With Dating” program at:
http://www.confidencewithdating.com
Of, if you would like step-by-step instructions on how
to get a girlfriend, get my “Smart Dating Course” now at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
P.S. Ladies, you can check out my “Smart Relationships Course” at:
http://www.smartrelationshipscourse.com It will show you how to
keep a relationship healthy!
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