How Down-Dating Can Destroy Your Life
Posted on November 15, 2006 - Filed Under Dating Tips
“How ‘Down-Dating’ Can Destroy Your Life”
Today’s article will be one of those “you may not like
what I have to say but I’ll say it anyway” kind of articles.
I’m going to talk about “down-dating” and its potential
side effects.
If you look around you, you will probably see many
men who purposely date women who they PERCEIVE are of “lower
status” than they are - be it in looks, wealth, education,
and social status.
These guys like “down-dating” because they enjoy
the feeling of “being in control” of a relationship. They
enjoy the security of knowing that a woman won’t want
to leave the relationship because if she does, she won’t
be able to find a “better” man.
This gives these guys a huge ego boost.
There are also some very wealthy men who want to
play “God” and “create” the perfect girlfriend from
scratch, such as by helping a college student become
a model. (Yes…these cases actually exist! I’ve worked with
a couple of such cases…)
While “down-dating” might be fun for awhile, in the
long run it could destroy your life.
First of all, if you date a woman who’s only
interested in your wealth, looks, or social status, then
you’re breaking one of the most fundamental rules of the “Smart
Dating System” - only date women with good character. By
putting an emphasis on class and money, you run a higher risk
of running into gold-diggers and social climbers. So don’t
whine if she leaves you for an even richer man.
Secondly, if the relationship turns south in a few
years and the woman dumps you for whatever reason, it’s
REALLY going to hurt EXTRA since you’ve always thought of
her as being inferior to you.
I’ve seen some very intelligent, well-educated, and
successful men falling into depression because of this. One of
my readers dropped out of medical school and lost all his
confidence when an “inferior” woman that he had been dating
finally said “screw you” and got out of his
life. I’ve also seen guys turning from “player”
to “wimp” when an “inferior” girlfriend that they were
just “playing” ended up dumping them.
Do these guys deserve what they got? I think so.
When you date a woman BECAUSE you think she’s “lower” than
you, then you DESERVE to be “double-hurt” when she leaves
you. (Consider that a lesson!)
Listen. If you’re going to sleep around, I am
not going to say anything. (Just remember to use protection
and to stay away from psycho women or dangerous situations.)
But if you’re going to get into a RELATIONSHIP,
then I URGE you to look for someone you actually RESPECT.
If you think a woman is “not good enough” for you, it’s
going to create a power imbalance in the relationship.
When you’re in control, you won’t REALLY be happy because
you’ll feel like you’re “doing her a favor”. And when you
lose control, you’ll be EXTRA upset because it is not
“supposed” to happen.
Of course…the biggest reason men opt for
“down-dating” is because they don’t feel they know how to
get the girls they really want. They either do not have the
confidence or the skills.
And that is where my free dating newsletter comes
on. It will teach you the things you need to know to be
confident with women.
Here’s the bottom line…
If you want some POWERFUL education on the topic of
dating and women, then you should sign up for my newsletter.
It is 100% free and you can sign up at:
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Good luck and have fun!
- Marius Panzarella
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