Do Ultimatums Really Work?
Posted on July 5, 2007 - Filed Under Breaking Up, Character, Dating Tips, Preventing Breakups, Relationship Tips, Staying Together
“Do Ultimatums Really Work?”
For those of you who have been my students for
awhile, you should know that unlike many other dating
coaches, I am against my clients giving ultimatums to
their partners except on rare occasions.
In my opinion, making a person choose between
something (or someone) and the relationship isn’t very
useful except for making YOU feel better. In many cases,
it may even hurt the relationship.
Think about it. If you force a woman to pick
between you and another man, you’ll be screwed no matter
who she picks.
If she is currently attracted to the other man
more than she is attracted to you, then she will just
leave you and chase after the other person.
If she is currently more attracted to you than
she is to the other man, then you’ll STILL be screwed
because her attraction for you will drop as soon as after
the ultimatum has been made. She’ll always see you as
the obstacle between her and the other guy (or
thing) that she wants.
In all honesty, if you have been following my
material well, there shouldn’t even be a REASON for you
to give your partner an ultimatum.
If the problem has started out as something
minor that got worse and worse over time, then my
“Smart Dating Course” should have helped you locate
the problem, set up boundaries, and fix the problem
before it got so big that it required an ultimatum.
And if the problem is an one-time event such
as cheating or infidelity, then you could just follow my
2-Strike Rule and give her a chance instead of an ultimatum.
Finally, if the problem is a character problem
that has always been a part of your partner. Then
you should have followed my rules on character and
not gone out with the person in the first place!
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Thanks,
Marius
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