Dating Advice After Divorce
Dating Advice After Divorce
1) Wait Until After Divorce (Preferably a year)
First of all, whatever you do, please wait until your divorce is
done before you start dating again. As much as you may want to date
around already so that you can get your mind off your current partner,
it is simply not a wise thing to do.
Not only will taking on a new partner during your divorce slow down
the process, it will also bring drama to whoever you date while you
are still going through your divorce.
Lastly, it will also tint your character. In my experience
as a dating coach, the same men and women who date around before
their divorces are over are usually the same folks who think it is
okay to cheat because “they have lost the feelings anyway”.
Take the time to heal. If possible, wait a year before you date again.
You’ll need that time.
2) Do The Things You Haven’t Done Yet
Remember all the things you have wanted to do but never got
the chance to? Take some time off for yourself and go accomplish
them. Go travel. Focus on your career. Start a new hobby.
It will take your focus off your old relationship and allow you
to meet new people at the same time.
3) Focus On Expanding Your Social Circle
Expand your social circle and pick up some new friends. Not only
will this help you find potential dates, it will also help you
move on.
Existing friends may take sides in your divorce or stop you
from changing yourself for the better. Meeting new people who
don’t know you will mean they will accept you for who you
are becoming.
4) Don’t Introduce Children To New Dates
Please, please, please do NOT bring your dates home to meet
your kids until things are getting pretty serious. You do NOT
want your kids to wonder why mommy brings home three different
guys every month. The same applies to your friends and extended
family. Remember that you will be the center of the family gossips
for a little while. Don’t give those nosey relatives more ammo
by showing up at family dinners with a different guy every
time.
Unless you like family drama, of course!
5) Don’t Look For a Relationship For The Sake Of Being In a Relationship
You know the stereotype of the divorced mom who’s desperately
seeking a new “daddy” for her children? Unfortunately it is one
of those stereotypes that do reflect some reality – I
see it happen way too often!
Avoid looking for a relationship just for the sake of being
in a relationship. It *will* drive your prospects away.
6) Limit Talk About Your Ex
Limit any talk about your ex. It doesn’t matter how horrible your ex
was and how much they had used or abused you. If you don’t have
anything nice to say about a person, don’t say it period. Negative
comments, even if they are true, will only make YOU look bad.
7) Learn To Flirt Again
If you have been married for awhile, you may have forgotten how
to flirt or be romantic. It’s time to learn again if that’s the
case.
If you’re a man, download my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
If you’re a woman, download the flirting guide for women at:
http://datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
8) Learn To Be A Challenge Again
Even though you’ve been divorced, you’re not any worse than
other men or women out there. Build yourself up and be
confident about yourself. Being a challenge worked
before (hopefully you DID act like a challenge then), and
it will work for you again.
9) Get rid of that victimized attitude – empower yourself
It is easy to feel victimized about a divorce – especially
if your ex has wronged you. Try to let go of your ego and
forgive. You DON’T have to feel any regrets. Accept it as
part of your past and know that what’s really important
is your FUTURE.
10) Starting Anew Means Starting Anew
As you can see, a lot of these tips actually apply to ANY
relationship – and I think that’s an important point to make.
Just because you’ve been divorced doesn’t mean you should
start approaching dating and relationships differently.
Even if the circumstances may seem different, all of the basic
rules that apply.
So just like I would tell any reader: Go out and have some fun,
and let everything else happen naturally!
For more relationship tips, download my “Smart Relationships
Course” at:
http://www.smartrelationshipscourse.com
Thanks,
Marius
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