Can You Change A Cheater?
Posted on November 30, 2006 - Filed Under Dating Tips
“Can You Change A Cheater?”
A question that I get quite often is “I just found out
that my girlfriend has cheated on me. Should I forgive her?”
Well…it’s a tough question.
In my experience as a dating coach, there are some
rare occasions when a woman does “repent”, reform, and never
cheat again.
But unfortunately, most of the time, it happens again,
again, and again!
It’s sad, but true.
Remember what causes in the first place according to the
“Smart Dating System”: Low attraction and a lack of character.
Everybody is prone to cheating given the right amount
of temptation. It’s just that some men and women have a higher
“threshold for cheating” than others due to their good character.
For example, for some men, it may take just a “slut”
at a party to get him to have a quickie in the bathroom
behind his girlfriend’s back. With some other men, it may
take a supermodel on a faraway island. (Ask yourself
honestly…if a supermodel wants to be with you on a remote
island and you’re certain that NOBODY will EVER find out
about the affair, are you going to do it? If you’re like
most guys, probably!) And of course, there are some guys
who will never, never cheat.
Similarly, some women may never cheat, while with
some other women it may take only a couple of drinks before
they are ready to drop their pants for the first guy who hits
on them.
It all depends on the woman’s character and how much
she cares about you.
And this is why a woman who has cheated once before
will often cheat again.
If you want to forgive a woman for cheating, then
MAKE SURE you follow my two-strike rule.
If a woman cheats on you once, you can forgive her.
But if she EVER cheats on you again…then it’s
time to cut her lose. Just remember: you have already
made a mistake the FIRST time by taking her back and
letting her cheat on you again…
Making a mistake once is acceptable.
Making a mistake twice is also acceptable…
consider it as a good lesson…
But making a mistake three times…
IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE AT ALL!
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