How to Stop Being a Nice Guy – 50 Ways to Challenge Yourself
How to Stop Being a Nice Guy – 50 Ways to Challenge Yourself
Since many readers have emailed me to ask me how they
can stop acting like “nice guys”, I thought I would write an
article and give you a few ways to challenge yourself so that
you can stop being a nice guy.
Naturally, not all of the examples will apply to you.
Skim through the list and pick out the ones that’ll fit you the
most. Many of them will not be specific to dating but will help
you in general.
1) Speak up and dare to disagree – especially in public.
2) Stop trying to compare yourself to others. This way, you will stop
feeling like you have to please other people.
3) Learn to say “no”.
4) Put YOURSELF first for once.
5) Live by this rule: If it frightens you, do it. (Unless it’s illegal or
someone might get hurt physically, of course.)
6) Focus on the “bigger picture”.
7) Separate friendship from work or business.
8) Be VOCAL about what you want
9) Stop making excuses.
10) ASK other people to help you.
11) Stop blaming yourself.
12) Stop thinking the world is against you.
13) Stop doing things in secret.
14) Don’t let ANYONE waste your time.
15) Let OTHERs live up to YOUR expectations.
16) Change your situation yourself.
17) If you can’t change a bad situation, remove yourself from it
instead of waiting for it to change.
18) Be willing of letting go of what you have so you can get what you want.
19) Don’t be afraid of letting go of existing relationships.
20) Welcome uncertainty. Thrive in it.
21) Learn public speaking.
22) Draw your boundaries and stand up for yourself.
23) Have a few role models with great ambition and leadership skills.
24) Let go of your mommy and daddy issues.
25) Let go of that ex.
26) Save your kindness for people who support you and show appreciation.
27) Take risks.
28) Try haggling or bargaining when you stop.
29) Admit and accept your darker side, including your selfish motives for being
“nice”
30) Stop avoiding conflicts. Confront them.
31) Be CLEAR and DIRECT. Stop dancing around.
32) Be good to yourself.
33) Build yourself up through skills and knowledge.
34) Meet successful people and see how THEY do things.
35) Be open sexually.
36) Play competitive sports.
37) Make bold moves.
38) VALUE yourself, your ideas, and your opinion.
39) Try not to focus on what other people think.
40) Get your hands dirty as soon as possible when you do something.
41) Get some managerial training.
42) Be the one in the group who makes difficult decisions.
43) Have integrity yourself, and avoid people without it.
43) Don’t try to “change” anyone – it’s not your job to be their psychologist.
44) Have an OBJECTIVE that you can focus on, and don’t deviate yourself.
even when you face objections or criticisms.
45) Be persistent with your life goals.
46) Stop thinking masculinity equals acting like a jerk.
47) Don’t settle for what you do not like or want.
48) Avoid anything that add shame – such as drugs, prostitution, chronic masturbation, or pornography
49) Stop trying to hide your perceived flaws and mistakes.
50) Stop wasting time. (This one is important – but I will leave it for
you to figure what it means.)
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10 Mistakes Men Make When Talking to Women
10 Mistakes Men Make When Talking to Women
Here are 10 common mistakes men make when talking to women they would like to meet.
1) Not Recognizing her Safety Level
A mistake many men make when they talk to women is not
recognizing a woman’s natural need to feel safe and
comfortable. Since women are usually not as strong physically
as men, it puts them in a more vulnerable position when
it comes to dealing with strangers they meet. So naturally,
they have a natural barrier or “bitch shield” that
protects them from potential harm.
Many men get upset because they think “hot” women act
“bitchy” around strangers. Well, try walking down the street
as a 5′6″, 120 pounds girl in high heels and miniskirt
with bigger men leering at you from all angles. See if
you’d still want to have that small talk with every guy
who approaches you.
Probably not!
So how can you make a woman feel safe when you’re talking
to her for the first time? Here are a few ideas:
- Be introduced by a third party
- Dress and groom yourself well
- Be VERY good at something so that you have SOME social proof
- Have strong, confident body language
- Have good eye contact
- Be congruent with your actions
- Avoid sensitive topics
- Talk about things she’d enjoy talking about
- Let her see you interact with other women
- Be the life of the party (once again, social proof)
- Don’t have any “strange” body language or behaviour
- Approach a woman when she’s in a group first
2) Not Being Congruent With Your Objectives
Many men make the mistake of acting incongruent when
they meet a woman they like. For example, they may
approach a woman because they want to date her, but
they will “pretend” all they want is to be a friend.
Some guys are so great at doing this that they will
lie to themselves and their friends about their true
intentions. They will say they are not interested…but
secretly hope that the girl will somehow start chasing
after them. (This way, they won’t be any chances of
rejection or embarrassment!)
My opinion is that you should search for your feelings
and be honest with yourself. If you are talking to
a woman because you want to get into her pants, at
least be bold and admit it to yourself. Go flirt with her
and let it be known through your eye contact that you
find her very attractive. Don’t try to hide it. She’ll
either flirt back or she won’t.
If you just want to be friends, then act like a friend.
If mutual feelings start developing, then start flirting.
But don’t pretend you are not interested in a woman while
trying to impress her at the same time. It’s incongruent.
3) Acting Like She’s a Goddess
Remember my theories on “up-dating”, “down-dating”, and
“romantic respect”> Most people want to date someone who’s
the “best” person they can get. (“Best” doesn’t necessarily
have to be about money or looks. It can be about values,
interests, and beliefs too.) So if you start treating a woman
like she’s a Goddess and better than you as soon as you
meet her, OF COURSE she’s not going to be very interested
in you!
4) Trying To Impress Her
Trying to impress a woman is probably the worst way to get
her to like you. Don’t suck up to her. Don’t tell her about
how much money you make or what restaurants you go to.
Don’t tell her what kind of car you drive. The only way
you should impress her is by letting her observe how
confident, calm, and aloof you act in every situation.
If there’s actual substance to you, she’ll see it. And if
she likes that substance, she will chase after it and not
want to let go. Be yourself and let her come to you. If you
can’t do that be being who you are, then work on yourself
until you can be congruent with yourself and women will
still come to you. (Most of the time, all it takes will be
a few attitude adjustments. Your actions, behaviour, and body
language will adjust naturally!)
5) Thinking Complaining Makes Yourself Look Better
Another mistake many men make is to think that complaining
or being negative can make them seem more intelligent.
But in reality, most of the time, women don’t care about the
things you want to complain about, be it your boss, your
car, or the economy.
6) Not Having Confident Body Language
Yes, people DO judge you by your body language. So be a man
and have bold, confident body language. Take up space. Have
a presence – even if you are quiet. If you need help in
this area because you are uncomfortable with your body,
workout at the the gym to build muscles and take some Pilates
classes to have better posture. You can even take some stage
acting training.
7) Not Knowing what Interests Her
A reader who works as a high-class escorts once told me
that great call girls know how to spend the first 20 minutes of
the “hour” just observing, asking questions, and listening to
a client so that they know exactly what he is really looking
for.
While you may not agree with my reader’s choice of profession,
what she said is actually very good advice. After all, it is a
an escort’s job to connect and communicate with a diversity
of men with whom they may find NOTHING in common…all within
a timeframe of 20 minutes. So how they do it? By listening,
observing, and guiding the conversationa carefully.
Make sure you learn about a girl by observing her clothes, bags,
and body language before you approach her. And while you’re
talking to her, make sure you ask questions and use active
listening to find out what interests them the most. Then tell
them what they want to hear. (Note: This does not have to be
unethical. If a girl is after the wrong things, then she is
not the kind of woman you want to date anyway.)
8) Not Realizing Tests are Just Tests
Many men do not realize that women will often throw little
verbal tests at them to see if they are consistent. For example,
they may insult you slightly to see how you react. Women are
great at guessing based on their emotions instead of their logic,
so make sure you don’t let these little verbal games take
away your confidence!
9) Being Too Afraid to Butt Heads
This is an extension of the last mistake. Many guys are too
afraid to disagree with women or to butt head with them
directly. Wrong. It’s better to realize you crash and burn than
to agree with a woman just for the sake of agreeing with her.
If you can’t even be congruent with your own beliefs, how can you
expect her to respect and admire you?
10) Not Knowing When to Stop
Finally, you should know when the stop a conversation no
matter how great it’s going. Always end up a conversation
early before the energy drops too low – unless you are sure
you can take things to the next level right away.
With that said, I’m going to end my article right here. (If
you want more, you’ll have to buy my “Smart Dating Course“!)
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Marius Panzarella
30 Fun and Great First Date Ideas
“30 Fun and Great First Date Ideas”
Here are 30 fun and great first date ideas for you to consider.
1) Haunted House Date: You’ll be holding hands and hanging onto each other the whole time!
2) Amusement Park Date: Always fun to go on the roller coaster together.
3) Mini-Golf Date: Cheap, cute, and fun. Also competitive in a non-serious way.
4) Bowling Date: Fun and competitive in a fun way.
5) Billiards / Pool Date: Fun, competitive, and sexy.
6) Rock-climbing Date: You’ll get to be rappel partners.
7) Ice-Skating Date: A bit cheesy, but you’ll get to hold hands and maybe fall together.
8) Outdoor Concert Date: Usually cheap or even free. Bring a nice picnic if it’s in the park.
9) Fruit Picking Date: Fun, casual, and even tastes good.
10) Driving Range Date: Share the same bucket of balls!
11) Art Gallery Date: Good if you have an artistic side. Makes you look classy.
12) Sailing Date: Great if you belong to a sailing club. Just go out on a dainty and have a great time!
13) Renaissance Fair Date: A very unique environment. Lots of small crafts to look at.
14) Hiking Date: Good if you’re both into the outdoor. If the hike goes well, see if you have enough rapport to go on a longer hike or even go camping together.
15) Crabbing / Dinner Date: Throw a cage into the water, talk for a few hours, then go home and cook a great dinner together!
16) Go-Carting Date: Doesn’t matter how old you are. It’s always fun to go go-cart riding.
17) Bike Riding Date: Great if you’re active. Go home, shower, and head out for diner.
18) Festival (Film, Music, craft, Ethnic, etc) Date: Lots of things to look at and talk about.
19) Zoo Visit Date: Always fun to do once a year.
20) Local Band Date: Cheap, casual, and a good night’s out.
21) Flea Market Date: Lots of weird things!
22) Picnic Date: Make it fancy with a cheese platter and all.
23) Local Attraction Date: It’s funny how most people never visit attractions in their hometown!
24) Canoe or Kayak Date: Share the same Canoe or Kayak. You’ll have to work together.
25) Stargazing Date: Has worked for thousands of years and won’t stop working any time soon.
26) Community Theater Date: Cheaper than Broadway or touring productions. Can find affordable and high quality productions in almost every major city.
27) Cook Dinner Date: Nice and romantic.
28) College Events (Mic Nights, etc) Date: Tons of free or cheap events on college campuses. Check the online event calendars.
29) Window Shopping Date: There’s a cool trendy street shopping neighbourhood in almost every city.
30) Dessert Date: Super sexy and more unique than going out for coffee or dinner.
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Dating Tips For Needy Men
“Dating Tips For Needy Men”
If you have been reading my column for awhile, you should know
that being needy pushes women away from you. So today we’re going to go
over some ways to make yourself less needy around women if that is
problem for you.
Here is a little test: See if you can look into the eyes of
an extremely attractive woman without feeling nervous or worrying
about what she thinks of you. If you can, good for you – you dont
need this article. But if you can’t, then it’s a sign you need to
follow my tips.
All of the points and techniques below are based on two
observations I’ve made over my career as a dating and relationship
coach:
Needy men are needy due to a lack of options and confidence.
They are needy because they think they cannot get a “better”
woman, which in turn comes from a lack of confidence. Here are a few
way a man can overcome these two obstacles and act less needy around
women.
1) Get used to attractive women
The first thing a needy man needs to do is to get used to
being around beautiful women. If you never get to see or hang out
with women, OF COURSE you’re going to get nervous or act needy
when you see one.
Start hanging out with beautiful girls without hitting
on them. Just befriend them without trying to make them yours. Get
used to having them around. See how HUMAN they are. See how they
have problems just like everybody else. Once you see that they
aren’t any better or different than yourself, you won’t feel a
needy to impress them anymore.
2) Build friendships with other males
It is also important that you build good friendships
with other men. In my experience, most men who do not feel
confident around women do not get along well with other men
either. Play some team sports and go out with the boys. Act
“stupid” with them and let loose! You need that competitive
testosterone!
3) Have ambition and be naturally competitive with yourself
Most people would tell you that women like men with
ambition. The more you have in your life – be in wealth or
money – the more choices you will FEEL you have in your choice
of women, period. Note I am not suggesting that all (or even
most) women are attracted to money and power, or that you
should go after the gold-diggers. What I am saying is that having
these things in your life will help you FEEL like you have
ACCESS to more women and act less needy as a result.
The perfect scenario is for you to KNOW you are
on the same caliber of the women you are trying to attract…
and that you don’t have try to impress them at all.
4) Have things to live for outside of a relationship
If you make a woman your whole world, you’re going to
drive her away, period. If you don’t have anything right now,
then go out and get it. Nobody is stopping you besides
yourself.
5) Be less available
Do not be available all the time. Don’t answer every
call and don’t accept every date. Let there be priorities
other than dating and romance.
6) Expand Your World
Go out and explore the world around you. Get interested
in what life has to offer you. Go out and meet new people. Read
books and take classes. Travel to new countries. Try new hobbies.
7) Grow Thicker Skin
Stop thinking that you are the center of the world and
stop worrying about what others think of you. Get a sales job
and get used to being rejected. Know that not everyone will
like you and that you don’t need them to like you. Focus on
being competitive with YOURSELF instead!
8) Take responsibility
Needy men love to feel victimized. Stand up for yourself
and take responsibility for your own life. Come up with solutions
for your problems and execute them. Stop whining to other people
or getting them to feel sorry for you. It won’t help you any in
the long run.
9) Exercise and dress nice
Exercise and dress well so that you always look your best.
It will make you feel more confident around strangers.
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How to Judge a Person’s Character
“How to Judge a Person’s Character”
As a tell my readers all the time, the biggest mistake a
person can make is to get into a relationship (be it business,
personal, or romantic) with the wrong person. You can literally
ruin your own life.
So how can you tell if a person is trouble or not? Here
are some tips on how to judge a person’s character before
getting involved with them.
1) Look at who their friends are
The first thing you should do is to look at who their
friends are. As I have mentioned in the past, you can judge
a person’s character by looking at their choice of friends.
Don’t believe me? Do the “Rule of 5” test and you’ll
see how true this is!
2) Look at their past actions
Call me cynical, but I find that 90% of the time,
you can judge a person by looking at their past history.
As I always say, “once a liar, always a liar.” A person
who has gone through 17 ex-girlfriends or boyfriends is
NOT going to think that YOU are “the one” for long.
3) Look at their actions, not their words
While you are judging their actions, make sure
you don’t fall prey to the victim stories that people with
character problems always invent for themselves. Guys,
don’t just believe ALL three of her ex-husband were abusive
jerks. Ladies, don’t believe he’s “trying” to stop his
bad habits.
As I always say, actions don’t lie, words do!
4) Look at how they treat other people
People with bad character tend to be self-centered.
They may put you at first (more like pretend to put you at
first) when they see a benefit, but as soon as they benefit
is gone, they will start treating you like dirt. So rather
than judging a person based on how they treat you while
they still have something they want from you, judge them
based on how they treat people that are not so useful to
them.
5) Look for lies or exaggerations
Look for lies or exaggerations. See if their stories
match up. Use your head and turn that B.S. detector on!
6) Look for addictions
Look for addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling,
and prostitution. Many people with character problems have
one kind of dependency or another.
7) Look at their attitude towards life
Look at how the person looks at the world. See if
they like blaming the world instead of taking responsibility
for their own actions. See if they are so negative that they
resent everything and everyone around them. (Stay AWAY if
that’s the case!)
8) Look at their beliefs and whether their actions are congruent
with their beliefs.
Finally, look at a person’s beliefs and see if they
belong to a train wreck. But don’t just look at their beliefs.
Follow the “actions, not words” rule and see if their actions
are CONGRUENT with their beliefs. That’s where a lot of
people fail!
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How To Compliment Your Girlfriend
“How To Compliment Your Girlfriend”
Today I am going to teach you how to compliment your
girlfriend without lowering her respect for you.
It’s really simple. All you have to do is follow my
golden rule: Praise her in public, and tease her in private.
Let’s start with the first one: praising your girlfriend
in public.
One of the most effective ways to compliment a woman
is to say good things about her to other people in front of her.
Men in a healthy relationship know how to be a gentleman and
praise their wives or girlfriends whenever there are other
people around – even when they are having a rough day.
Since you’ll be making her look good in front of her
friends and other people, she’ll take your praises a lot more
seriously than if you were to compliment her privately. She’ll
also feel appreciated and supported by you.
When in private, however, you want to avoid praising
her too much because it may come across as being needy.
What you should do instead is to tease her with playful
compliments. Use a playful tone whenever you give her a compliment,
so that it is almost like you are “approving” her or teasing her
instead of using flattery to suck up to her. (Here are some examples
of how to compliment a woman without losing your power.)
Finally, you should also remember that one of the greatest
compliments you can give to a woman is to recognize and appreciate
the “small details” that she brings into your life. Stop and check
her out visually (let her catch you) when she puts on a nice outfit.
Pay attention to her cooking and the accessories she wears, etc.
Remember Psychology 101: Everyone wants to FEEL useful and
appreciated. So give your girlfriend plenty of opportunities to
feel useful and appreciated by paying attention to the things she
does, and she’ll be a happy girlfriend!
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Tips For Dating a Friend
“Tips For Dating a Friend”
Interested in turning a friendship into a romantic relationship? Got a secret crush on your best friend? Here are 7 tips for dating a friend.
1) Be Prepared To Lose the Friendship
First of all, if you are considering dating
a friend, you should be prepared to lose the
friendship. I know I’ll probably be bashed by sappy
folks for saying this, but it’s just a harsh truth
based on all the cases I’ve seen as a dating
coach in the past ten years.
If your friend does not reciprocate your
feelings, he or she may “freak out” and pull back
from you.
Even if your friend does like you back and
you guys end up dating, the relationship may not last
forever. And when the breakup finally happens, it may
not be as amicable as you would hope.
2) Don’t Just Say It
If you like your friend, make sure you don’t
just “spill your beans” and reveal how you feel.
They may NOT feel the same way. Even if they did,
“telling” them would kill their interest level.
Instead of wearing your heart on your sleeve and
letting yourself blurt it out, just follow the tips
in this article and take things one step at a time.
3) Make Them See You Differently
Your first job is to stop bring predictable and make
them start seeing you differently? Why? Because they
probably think they know you very well and that there
is no reason to go from being “friends” to dating.
You gotta change that. Surprise them by showing more
sides to you. (They better be good things!) Make them
realize that there is a LOT more to you than what
meets the eye. You gotta make them intrigued by you,
or you’re going to be stuck as a friend forever.
4) Know When To Pull Back
This may feel counter-intuitive, but sometimes
you have to pull back before you can advance. If
you friend currently takes your presence in their
life for granted, then maybe it’s time to
disappear for a little while so that when you talk
again, you can do so from a clean slate.
5) Do Exciting Things and Act Like a Challenge
This goes with making your friend see you differently.
Do things that are “different”, unique, and exciting.
At the same time, stop being “nice” and start doing
things more on your own terms. Don’t just be a nice
“best guy friend” or “best girl friend”. Be independent,
exciting, and unique. Make them miss you and want
to hang out with you.
6) Flirt and Raise the Physical Attraction
Once you have your friend seeing you differently, ypu
should flirt, flirt, and flirt some more. I can’t
emphasize this enough. It is extremely important that
you start taking things to a more “physical level.”
When you’re dealing with a friend you’re known for
a long time, it usually takes a LOT of physical
chemistry to get them to start fantasizing about
being in a relationship with you. So go for a kiss
(or more) if you can!
6) Know How To Transit
How you handle the first kiss or make-out session
with be a make-or-break for your new relationship.
If you act weird or don’t know what to do, doubt
will creep in and your friend may start feeling
guilty about doing what they did with you since
you’re “just friends”. Don’t allow that to happen.
Prolong that “post-kiss” or “post-make-out”
afterglow for as long as possible by acting like
a lover. Cuddle and whisper sweet things into
your friend’s ears until it feels like you are
together already.
7) Keep the Interest Level High
The interest level may fluctuate for awhile
due to guilt and confusion. So make sure you
keep on flirting and acting like a challenge.
Otherwise, you’re going to hear the “Let’s
just be friends” request pretty soon!
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- Marius P.
12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You
“12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You”
Yesterday, a female reader emailed me to ask, “Marius,
can you show me how to tell if a boy is flirting with me?”
Well, since I’ve been getting tons of other requests from
my female readers for ways on how to know if a guy is
interested in them, I thought I would do a quick article
on how men flirt with women.
So ladies…here is a list of signs he is flirting with
you. (And guys, here’s how to know if you are signaling
interests to a woman!)
1) See If He Tries To Attract Your Attention
If a guy is always trying to get your attention, you can
be PRETTY sure that he’s interested. Think about it. If you
didn’t find a guy intriguing, would you keep on trying to
talk to him to get his attention? A man constantly trying
to get your attention is one of the most obivous signs
he’s flirting with you.
2) See If He Tries To Stand Out From Other Guys
If a man tries HARD to stand out from other guys whenever
you are around, he’s trying to get you to notice him.
This may mean speaking a bit louder, having bolder body
movements, standing taller, or even pulling crazy
stunts to “show” he’s cool.
3) See If He Tries To Act “Alpha”
One way he will try to stand out from other guys is by
“acting alpha”. If he tries to put down other guys
whenever you are around, that’s a major sign he’s
interested in you. Other “alpha signs” include
puffing out their chests, leaning back in their chairs,
or strutting when they walk!
4) See If His Eyebrows Remain Slightly Raised
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly when they are
talking to women they are interested in. Consider
this one of the tell-tale signs men give when flirting!
5) See If He Teases You A Lot
Men rarely pay attention to women they are not interested
in. So if a guy teases you a lot, either he is a player
and teases every girl he meets, or he must have SOME
interests in you – ESPECIALLY if he combines it with
other signs of flirting.
6) See If He Touches You “Accidentally”
A guy is probably trying to get closer to you if he
touches you “accidentally” more often than he
touches a girls.
7) See If He Maintains Eye Contact
If a guy is mesmerized with you, he will hold eye
contact with you and flirt with his eyes. If he’s
shy, he will break eye contact and look away. But
after a few seconds, he will look again.
8) See If He Uses A Different Voice Tone
Just like women, men uses a different voice tone
when talking to woman. If he puts on a “special
voice” whenever he is alone with you, he is probably
flirting with you.
9) See If He Is Invading Your Physical Boundaries
A guy who is flirting with you will invading your
physical boundaries slowly. First he’ll mirror
his body language with yours. Then he’ll lean
forward as he becomes more interested in the
conversation. He may start touching your elbow
lightly when he makes a point. Before you know
it, he’ll be holding your hand, stroking your
hair, and going for a kiss.
10) See If He Is Checking You Out
If you catch him checking you out, you can be sure
that he is at least interested in you physically.
Now is the time to have a nice conversation with
him and get him to become interested with your
mind and personality as well!
11) See If He Gets Into a Cowboy Stance
Guys often slip into the “cowboy stance” when they
flirt with a woman. This consists of having his legs
spread far apart, with shoulders relaxed and thumbs
tucked into the front of the belt. Watch for this
next time you go to a nightclub.
12) See If He’ll Lend You His Coat
Guys don’t lend coats to anymore. If he lends you
his coat because you seem coat, either he’s a
gentleman, or he wants to see you “marked” as his.
(Chances are, it’s both!)
For tips on how to flirt with men,
check out: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Or, if you’re a man, then check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
It will teach you how to flirt…step-by-step!
- Marius P.
Flirting Tips For Teenagers
Flirting Tips For Teenagers
Since I get this request all the time, today I am going to write some
flirting tips for teenagers. Here goes:
1) Groom Yourself Properly
Despite what your teachers tell you, appearance does matter. We do live
in a very shallow society. You want to look your best when you flirt
with the members of the opposite sex.
Play some sports and get into shape. Groom yourself properly and
dress cleanly. You do not need plastic surgery or brand name clothes.
Just pay SOME attention so that you are not scaring girls or boys
away.
2) Show Off Your Skills
Become good at something (be it sports, leadership, or music, etc ) and
display your skills in public. The more respect people have for you, the
easier it will be for you to flirt.
Here’s a good analogy. If you’re at the very bottom of the social ladder
at your school, if you try to flirt and push too hard, people are just
going to think you are a “creep”.
But be the guy who “dresses okay” but plays the piano very well, and all
you have to do is throw in a little bit of flirting to get lots of girls.
3) Make Eye Contact
Make eye contact with everyone, especially with your crush.
Try the following trick: Make eye contact with your crush from across the
room and quickly look away. Then make eye contact again but hold their
gaze for a few seconds this time. Smile.
4) Smile
Speaking of smiling, having a nice, genuine smile can make you
look a lot more approachable.
5) Walk Tall and Look Confident
No matter you’re a girl or a boy, walk tall and look confident.
Avoid slouching. This will automatically make you look better
regardless of your looks or gender.
6) Make People Laugh Without Being the Class Clown
Make your friends and classmates laugh – without being a class
clown. If you need help in this department, then go borrow
a few books on stand up comedy from your library.
7) Use Touch To Your Advantage
Hug your crush when you get a chance, and touch their elbow
as if you’re emphasizing a point.
8) Act Like A Challenge
Remember that people like what they can’t have, so if you are
too available to your crush, they may actually like you less
as a result. But keep in mind that acting like a challenge does
not equal being aloof. If you just ignore your crush, they
may think you’re just not interested in give up. You have to
show just enough interest to keep them thinking about you, but
not so much that they move on to another challenge. It’s a fine
line that you will “get” as you become more experienced.
For more dating tips, download my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Girls, go to: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Thanks,
Marius
P.S. Here are some tips on how to flirt with women in general.
How To See if a Woman Is Ready For a First Kiss
“How To See if a Woman Is Ready For a First Kiss”
Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to see if a
woman is ready to be kissed:
Step 1) Have a great date with her.
Step 2) Flirt with her and tease her plenty. Keep her laughing
during the date. Swing her around under a tree, etc.
Step 3) Make sure you are holding her hand. Don’t attempt
to kiss her if you aren’t even holding hands with her yet.
Step 4) Take her to a quiet spot. Try to find a “romantic
place” (scenic viewpoint, etc) if you can.
Step 5) Slow down your movements. Calm the energy. RELAX.
(Act like your’re together already!)
Step 6) Be silent.
Step 7) Look into her eyes.
Step 8) Reach over and brush her hair slightly. See how she reacts.
Step 9) Look into her eyes again.
Step 10) Stare down at her lips, then look back into her eyes
and smile.
Step 11) Lean over to kiss her slowly.
Step 12) Observe her reaction as approach the kiss slowly.
If she moves away, it’s a sign she wants to avoid the kiss.
Back off!
But if she doesn’t move or if she closes her eyes, it’s
a sign she wants to be kissed. Go for it!
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Deal With Emotional Vampires
“How To Deal With Emotional Vampires”
Let’s cut to the chase. Today I am going to show
you how you can protect yourself drama queens, chronic
bitches, and other emotional vampires who want to drain
you of all your energy.
1) Distance Yourself If Possible
The first point I would like to emphasize is
that you shouldn’t be dealing with emotional vampires in
the first place. Unless you have a clear reason to interact
with them (such as for work or business – see point #2),
STAY AWAY.
Emotional vampires have a tendency to just keep on
pushing and pushing your boundaries until they break
you defenses. If you let them into your personal life,
one day they WILL break you down and drain your energy.
2) Know Why You Are Dealing With Them
If you have emotional vampires around you, really
ask yourself WHY you’re dealing with them. Look beyond
your “professional” or “business” reasons. In my experience,
95% of the time, a client who has let an emotional vampire
into his or her life do so due to attraction. “Work”
or “business” are just excuses.
Here’s the perfect test: Ask yourself if you
would still let the emotional vampire be in your life if
they were physically REPULSIVE. Be honest to yourself!
3) Focus On Their Actions, Not Words
If you must absolutely deal with an emotional vampire,
then focus on their ACTIONS, not their words. What emotional
vampires SAY is often VERY different than what they do.
Ignore everything they say and focus on their ACTIONS instead.
4) Do Pay Attention To Their History
A good way to “bust” emotional vampires is by looking
at their history.
If a woman has cheated on 5 different men, chances are,
SHE was the source of problems.
If a man has had cold feet before, you can almost guarantee
he will have cold feet again.
98% of people cannot change their character. Look at how
someone has acted in the past, and you can easily anticipate how they
will act in the future.
Yes, I know it sounds assholish and cynical, but it’s really
true in the real world!
5) Set Boundaries
Set boundaries and do NOT let them be compromised. You
CANNOT play gentle with an emotional vampire and win. As soon as
you give something to them, they will ask for more. They will keep
on barraging your defenses until they wear you down.
6) Don’t Feel Guilty
Emotional vampires will make you feel very guilty about
yourself if you do not give them what they want. Don’t let their
words get to you. When in doubt, refer to point #3 and #4. (Focus
on their actions instead of their words, and remember their
history!)
7) Seek Third Party Opinions
Try to seek third party opinions. Emotional vampires are
usually very good at using half-truths to convince you they are
right. To control you, they will try to isolate you from
other sources of information and make it look like it’s the two
of you against the world. (Example: You are the only one who
understands her. Everyone else is an asshole.)
Talk to your friends and family. Heck, send me an email
and I’ll yell till I get some sense into you.
8) See Life Beyond the Relationship
Know that it is okay to leave an emotional vampire
behind. People come, people go. It’s all part of life. Focus
on the big picture and don’t let the little people hold you
back.
9) Don’t Use Logic With Them
Don’t get into a “logical argument” with an emotional
vampire because logic only works when the other party is playing
fair. Emotional vampires don’t play fair. They will just attack
your argument from different angles and wait till you say ONE
wrong word. Then they will exaggerate that one word and use
that to nullify the whole argument.
Don’t try to justify your boundaries! Just set them!
10) Ignore Tantrums
When emotional vampires don’t get their way, they will
throw tantrums just to get a reaction from you.
Don’t give them that reaction. just imagine you are dealing
with a five-year old child and do not give in at all.
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Have Confident Body Language
“How To Have Confident Body Language”
1) Make eye contact. Don’t break away until other people do.
2) Have a strong, firm handshake
3) Move slowly. Don’t “freak out” at anything
4) When in doubt, just look and smile.
5) Don’t lean in too close. You will come off as needy.
6) Look up, not at the ground.
7) Sit and stand tall. Don’t slouch.
8) Don’t be afraid of taking up space.
9) Don’t cross your arms or legs. Open up.
10) Nod to show you are listening when others talk.
11) Lower your drink. Don’t hold it in front of you
to hide yourself.
12) Keep your hands out of your pockets.
13) Take slow, deep breaths
14) Do sports and Yoga to improve your posture.
15) Make your movements fluid. Don’t be rigid like a robot!
16) Don’t fidget. Hold yourself still!
17) Take large, wide steps when you walk.
18) Dress well and groom yourself. You will
feel more confident and adjust your body language
as a result.
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making
“The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making”
No, this article isn’t about the 5 or 10 most common
dating mistakes that men make. It’s a rant on how many men
KEEP on making the same mistakes.
I am sure you have heard of the old saying, “Smart
people learn from other people’s mistakes, average people
learn from their own mistakes, stupid people never learn.”
Unfortunately, when it comes to dating, most
people are stupid!
9 out of 10 clients I work with KNOW what their
problems are…but they don’t want to change because of
the emotions involved.
So…today I would like to challenge you with the
following question:
“What have you learned from your own dating mistakes
in the past year? And have you CHANGED?”
For example…
Are you still hung up on that one girl because
you just can’t let her go?
Do you still find yourself disrespected by women because
you are “too nice” to them?
Do you read tons of dating articles and books but
never do anything with the information?
Do you always get the same negative reaction when you
approach a woman? (This means you’re doing something WRONG,
by the way.)
Do women always lose interest in you after a few days
or weeks?
Do you continue to find yourself attracted to women
with bad character who are not good for you?
Here’s the golden rule: If you keep on getting
the same results that you don’t LIKE, it only means you are
making SOME kind of a mistake OVER and OVER again.
If you know the mistakes you are making, then it’s
time to have a little self-discipline to FIX YOURSELF. (For
help, read my “Smart Dating Course” or “Smart Relationships
Course“.)
If you don’t even know what mistakes you are making,
then you need to sit down and really THINK about what it is
that you are doing wrong. Pull back from the situation
and apply CRITICAL THINKING. Read my books and analyze your
particular situation. CLEAR UP YOUR MIND, put your emotions
aside, and apply COMMON SENSE.
Put this simple but effective advice into practice,
and I promise you will see improved results!
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Attract Shy Women
“How To Attract Shy Women”
I am often asked, “Marius, the girl I like doesn’t really
flirt back because she’s really shy. What can I do to get her?”
My answer is simple: Take the lead and keep flirting!
What most people don’t understand about shy folks is that
just like all people, they respect leadership. They may not TELL
you that they like the attention you are giving them, but it does
not mean they want you to stop.
In 9 out of 10 situations, they are just looking for
someone (ANYONE) to lead.
But…how dow you know when you should REALLY stop?
How do you know when a girl wants you to leave her alone?
By using my green light theory!
When you are flirting with a woman, pretend you are
at a street intersection.
If you see a red light (aka she gets annoyed or tells
you to stop), stop immediately. Then pull back and try again.
(See if the red light ever turns green before you quit!)
If you see a green light (she is flirting back),
then keep advancing.
If you see a yellow light (you’re not sure how she feels),
then it just means you haven’t advanced enough yet. So push
ahead until you finally see a red OR green light.
Remember: all the same basic rules apply no matter who
you are flirting with. Break the “Smart Dating Rules” just
because think a girl is “special”, “shy”, or “unique”, and you
will end up breaking your own game!
For more dating tips, sign up for my dating newsletter
at http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Be More Decisive Around Women
“How To Be More Decisive Around Women”
If you have been in the dating game for awhile,
you should know that women do not like men who are indecisive.
This is a simple concept that most “nice guys” either don’t get
or can’t do: If you have trouble making quick decisions or if you
always rely on a woman to make all the decisions for you, she will
eventually lose all romantic respect for you because you are not
acting like a man.
Here are a few ways you can become more decisive around
women:
1) Come prepared.
The first thing you can do is to be more prepared. For
example,if you bring a woman into your environment instead of going
into her world, you will be able to most of the decisions naturally
since you are in your own environment.
Let’s say you drive to a woman’s town and she takes you to
a good little restaurant she goes to all the time. She knows
all the items on the menu and even makes a suggestion for you.
She orders the wine because she’s been there so many times.
After the meal, she takes you around the neighborhood and stops by
the local convenience store because she needs to pick something up.
Do you think her romantic respect for you will increase from
taking you around?
Now imagine HER coming into YOUR world. Imagine you taking
HER to your favorite restaurant where the head waiter knows you.
Much better, isn’t it?
2) Don’t force yourself to be agreeable
If you find yourself in disagreement with a woman, verbalize
it! Don’t just agree with her because you do not want to piss her off.
Act like a man and state your opinion. Butt heads if necessary. Learn
to say “no” and call her out on her bullsh** if she gives you any.
She will respect you for it.
3) Be flexible
While you don’t want to be too agreeable, you shouldn’t be
too rigid either. Pick your battles wisely. Be flexible when it comes
to the SMALL stuff. If everything has to be your way, you’re not going
to look decisive. You’re going to look like a control freak instead.
4) Be spontaneous
Even if your decisions are well-planned ahead, you want to
come across as spontaneous. You know how good comedians always seem
like they are just naturally funny when they’re doing a show?
Guess what? Everything has been scripted out ahead of time, right
down to the smallest pause.
You want to apply this sample philosophy to your love life.
Prepare ahead of time, but act as if all of your decisions have just
come to you on the spot. The girls are going to think you’re amazingly
smart.
5) Don’t over-complicate things
A lot of indecisive guys make the mistake of over-analyzing
a situation. If you look at how successful people think, they are
usually great at filtering the garbage and focusing on the one or
two variables that are at the core of an issue. If you do the same,
you will see that it will be a lot easier for you to make quick
decisions.
6) Don’t worry about the outcome
When it comes to dating, many men are afraid of making
a move because they don’t want to mess up. Get rid of that mentality
now. Stop worrying about the outcome and just do it. Stop worrying
about the outcome and just live the moment!
7) Improve your leadership ability
Try to improve yourself by forcing yourself to
take on some kind of a leadership position. Go volunteer.
Start a club at university. Heck. Organize your own
paintball squad. The more decisions you have to make on
a daily basis, the easier it will become.
8) Practice, practice, practice!
How do soldiers know when to shoot and when NOT to shoot
in a combat environment? Through hard training, of course. The
more you put yourself in an environment where you have to make
quick decisions, the easier it will become. So get off your
computer and start talking to girls!
9) Have prior knowledge to draw from
Practice will only reinforce BAD habits if you do not
know what you are doing. So go through all of my old newsletters
and get my “Smart Dating Course” if you can afford it. It is
totally worth it. With close to a thousand pages of material
in the members area, it is the most complete, detailed,
step-by-step system available for you, period!
From meeting and approaching women to asking
them out, closing for phone numbers, and turning them
into girlfriends, I will show you everything you need
to know to start dating the girls you have always wanted
to date.
Don’t delay any longer. Spice up your love life
now with my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/smartdatingcourse.html
For more dating tips, sign up for my dating newsletter
at http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
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“In the past, I had trouble even making eye contact with women,
much less talking to them. This book taught me how to do both
those things and more. Now I’m filled with a newfound confidence;
I even pick and choose who I want to strike up a conversation
with. I would definitely recommend this book to any guy who wants
to turn his social life around for the better.”
- C.Y. from San Francisco, California
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(c)2009 Marius Panzarella, All Rights Reserved.
Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case
“Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case”
Quite a few readers have emailed me to ask for my opinion
of the George Sodini case…so I thought I’d do a quick commentary
for all the men and women on my newsletter:
1) I’ve always thought something like this would happen sooner
or later. (From some of the nutcase emails I have received.) This is
why I often tell my more “extreme” readers to seek therapy. I don’t
mean it as an insult – some guys really need help.
2) Anger is dangerous. If you see yourself becoming angry at “all”
men or women, seek therapy immediately. Blaming other people for your
failures won’t help you. It will only hurt you (and other people)
in the long run. Best case scenario is you pick up some sort of
passive-aggressiveness that makes you a useless person to society.
Worst case scenario is that you pick up a gun and take out
innocent people whom you think have done you wrong.
3) It is really not healthy to be bothered by daddy or mommy issues
by the time you are 30. There has to be a point when you admit to
yourself that you are mature enough to live life your way. Focus on
where you are going instead of where you came from! Blaming
your past won’t solve anything in the long run.
4) If you look at George Sodini’s picture, he is not a bad looking
man at all. On top of that, he has a good job and is quite intelligent
according to new reports.
However, when you watch his videos Youtube, you will find a certain
amount of creepiness. Maybe that is the reason everybody rejected
him. Not because of his looks, wealth, or social status – but
because of his personality.
5) Even his apartment is a little creepy. There is absolutely no
sense of character. It reveals no information about his life except
that it is very clean. How are women supposed to feel comfortable
in such an environment?
A man’s apartment should be congruent with his identify and image.
Having plants, paintings, and decorations will make a woman a lot
more comfortable because you will see like a “real person” instead of
a serial murderer who has just moved into the neighborhood.
6) It is important to have self-worth and strong values. As I always
say, plenty of successful people are screwed up in the head. (Intelligent
people are often a little odd.) But because they have ambitions, they
learn to control their crazy side or even use their insecurities as
their fuel for success.
If your only goal in life is to get a girlfriend or boyfriend…sorry
to say this, but you don’t deserve one.
7) It is really too bad that this case has brought out the worst in
a lot of people:
- There are numerous men and women flaming the other gender on Internet
forums
- Some dating coaches are using this as an opportunity to get backlinks
from news sites by leaving comments with links to their websites
- Some dating coaches (and their fans) are already smack-talking each other
on forums and blogs.
My view: Learn from this, but let’s not look for people to blame…
8) It is important to ask “why” and “how” instead of just letting your
emotions take over. Sometimes you may feel like you want revenge. But
when you really think about “why”, you will see that it’s very childish
and unproductive.
If someone hurts you, instead of just feeling victimized, think “why”
they hurt you before you act blindly. Once you recognize why the other
party has made a mistake, you may not be so angry anymore. Sometimes
you will see that it is much more productive to just walk away instead
of hurting the person back.
9) Learn to SHOW emotions in a healthy way before they turn into
passive-aggressiveness. The trouble with a lot of men is that they
are afraid of showing emotions. So they hide their feelings while
putting on a “we’re best friends” facade when they’re actually after
romance or sex. They keep this up until they can’t hold it in anymore
and “confess” all of their feelings out of the blue. The woman is shocked
and don’t know how to react as a result.
Flirting and creating sexual chemistry allow you to emote your
potential interests instead of putting on a facade.
10) Learn to take rejection well. Not every woman you like will like you
back, just like you will not like every woman who likes you. Everyone
has their own preferences. You can make yourself more likable through
my “Smart Dating Course”, but you will still not have a 100%
success rate.
Rejection doesn’t mean you are a loser. The only loser is a person
who can’t handle rejection!
11) Be assertive and decisive. Have a little bit of backbone. Women
don’t like guys who flip-flop between different opinions just to please
a woman – which from Sodini’s body language is what I guess he did.
12) “I want to spill my heart and tell you my life sucks” blogs are for
losers. They dramatize situations and make you feel even more victimized.
Instead of “telling” people about your feelings and failures, take
action to change and improve your habits and personality. (They are linked.)
It’s a much more productive use of your time!
For more on my dating and relationship, check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
Picking Up Waitresses and Bartenders
“Picking Up Waitresses and Bartenders”
A question that I get all the time is, “I don’t know
if this bartender is interested in me or not. Is she flirting
because she likes me, or is she just flirting for tips? How can
I tell?”
Well, I can tell you right now that in 90% of cases, a waitress
is flirting for tips. That’s just reality. Anyone who makes
a living in tips has learned the skills to flirt in his or
her way – be it the valet, the cab driver, or the ballhop.
Heck, even I am flirting with you right now – so that
you will buy my ebook, Right?
So…what should you do if you want to flirt with a waitress
or bartender?
First start by teasing her about bad service. Make
sure you keep a smile on your face to show you are just kidding.
For example. if you are ordering wine, show disgust when you
taste it. Then smile and say, “Bet you don’t get that very often.
Have you ever seen anyone send their wine back?”
Next, start to have longer and longer conversation
exchanges each time she comes to your table. Start talking about
things that are outside of her work environment and see how she
responds.
Build rapport based on non-threatening topics such as:
- Family
- Hobby
- Day Occupation
- Plans for the future
If she is more receptive to your advances than she is
to other customers, then go for her phone number *and* Facebook
account. (Some girls don’t want to give their numbers out but
don’t mind giving out their Facebok accounts.) Or even better,
instead of trying to get her number, ask her when her shift
ends and offer to meet her at the bar for a drink.
If that’s not possible, then tell her you’ll be with
some friends at a popular bar later on, and that she’s welcome
to join you. You can even offer her number so she can call you
if she needs a ride.
Beyond that, you will just have to leave it up to chance.
Waitresses and bartenders do get hit on a lot and may
not be interested in you. That’s okay. Just move on.
After all, they are paid to flirt back! So why
not just flirt and not worry about it?
For more dating tips, sign up for my dating newsletter
at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
Thanks,
Marius
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“Marius…I just want to thank you for showing me all the little
secrets about attracting women. Thanks to you, I am now dating
the girl I’ve had a crush with for 2 years. We’re engaged and
getting married next fall! Thanks!”
-L.C. from Seattle, Washington
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(c)2009 Marius Panzarella, All Rights Reserved.
What If Your Parents Have Ruined Your Game
“What If Your Parents Have Ruined Your Game”
One of the most common excuses I hear from my readers
is that they are not good with women because of their childhood
or past. Here are some of the excuses I’ve heard:
“I used to be good but my divorce has devastated me.”
“My mom has raised me to be polite around women.” (So?)
“I was a nerd back in high school…”
“I was not raised to be masculine.”
“Years of rejection have made me give up any hope.”
These men like to ask me for advice on how to overcome
their childhood or past problems so that they can become successful
with women.
Here is what I like to tell them:
You never overcome anything. You move on.
Listen. You cannot make your history go away. A part of
your history will always be a part of you. There’s no use to
blame anyone (including yourself) or to burden yourself with shame,
guilt, or remorse. There is no way to go back in time and fix
anything. What’s done is done. Move on.
If you choose to let go and dismiss the bad things
that have happened to you in the past, then you will be able
to look to the future and improve yourself. Your past circumstances
or mistakes will then just become old news.
As Carl Jung said, “People do not solve their
psychological problems, in my experience. They outgrow them.”
How about you? Are you willing to outgrow your past
problems?
If you want real power, you must learn to let go
of your past, period!
Really think hard about this.
And if you are ready to put your past behind and
make positive changes to your life, then consider getting
my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/smartdatingcourse.html
You’ll learn literally dozens and dozens of killer
techniques that you can use RIGHT AWAY. No more waiting for
my articles to come into your mailbox every morning and no
more trying to “connect all the dots together” yourself.
You’ll learn the BIGGER PICTURE and EXCATLY what it takes to
create ATTRACTION with the girl you want.
I honestly can’t think of a better or easier way to
improve your love life fast. So download your copy now at:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/smartdatingcourse.html
Thanks,
Marius
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“Marius…I just want to thank you for showing me all the little
secrets about attracting women. Thanks to you, I am now dating
the girl I’ve had a crush with for 2 years. We’re engaged and
getting married next fall! Thanks!”
-L.C. from Seattle, Washington
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(c)2009 Marius Panzarella, All Rights Reserved.
The Rule of Five in Dating
“The Rule of Five in Dating”
Here’s a new rule to my “Smart Dating System”:
You can judge a person’s character 99% of the time
by looking at the five closest people they associate themselves
with.
You may have heard that if you hang around with
criminals long enough, eventually you’ll become one…or
that if you hang around with angry or depressed people,
eventually you may become one of them as well.
After helping men and women with their love lives
for almost a decade now, I must confirm the above theory
to be true. You ARE who you associate yourself with.
Here are a few tests:
Take a look at the five people you spend the most time
with. Then…
1) Ask yourself if you have similar interests.
2) Take their average income. See if your own earnings
are close to that average.
3) Take their average grades if you are still in school.
See if your own grades are close.
4) Take their average success in dating. See if your
own success is close.
5) Take the number of hours they spend playing video
games a week. (This is for teenagers.) Find the average
and compare to your own.
6) Look at their success in life in general. Take the
average and compare to your own.
The list of tests can go on and on!
Now…how does this apply to dating and women?
First of all, the most important point I am trying to make
here is that it is very, very important to surround yourself
with GOOD people that you want to emulate. Why? Because
one way or another, the people around you are going to
influence you everyday actions and habits. So, if you want
to have a better life (be it in your career or in your love
life), you should look for people who are living the life
you want and simply allow their everyday actions and habits
to influence your own behavior.
This test also works for the women you’re
interested in dating. Consider it a character test. You
can tell the character of a woman by looking at her five
closest friends. For example, if her five best friends
have all cheated before, I can almost guarantee you
she will cheat on you one day.
So keep that in mind next time a woman talks
about her cheating girl friends!
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Body Language Mistakes Men Make With Women
“Body Language Mistakes Men Make With Women”
Here are seven common body languages men make with
women:
1) Not Taking Enough Room
One of the most common body language mistakes guys make
around women is not taking enough personal space. Masculine men
and alpha males take up more room than guys without much
confidence. Confident men don’t hide in the corner. They
make bold moves and invade other people’s personal space instead
of just keeping to themselves.
Try to walk tall, move slowly, and expand your personal
space. Instead of crossing your arms, spread them out. Instead
of keeping your legs crossed when you sit (like a woman…),
leave them open!
2) Slouching / Looking At The Ground
Slouching and looking at the ground almost always
come together. Both are signs of insecurity. If you are
always looking at the ground when you walk, you will look
like you are trying to avoid eye contact with people. Keep
your noble chin up when you walk!
3) Moving Too Quickly
Powerful men usually take slow but confident steps.
So don’t start flaming all over when you are with a woman
no matter how nervous or excited you are. Try to create an
aura of power around yourself but slowing down your movements.
4) Having Shifty Eyes
A sure sign of insecurity is having shify eyes. It
really makes it look like you are avoiding eye contact
for whatever reason.
Don’t be afraid of letting people catch you checking
them out. Just look back and smile!
5) Looking Too Serious
If you always have a serious look on your face, women
are not going to think you are a very fun person. Make sure
you don’t give the impression of being too stiff or serious!
6) Being Too Stiff
Speaking of stiffness, try to relax your body language
as much as possible. Being stiff creates tension, which in turn
makes you more nervous and insecure – not exactly the right
mindset to meet women!
7) Shredding Napkins and Other “Little Habits”
If you have any small “body language habits” such as
shredding napkins at the dining table or playing with your
shirt buttons when talking to a girl, you should try to
fix it. Not only can it be weird and distracting to a woman, it
may also give the impression that you are nervous or insecure!
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How To Get Girls By…Well…Connecting With Other Guys
“HoW To Get Girls By…Well…Connecting With Other Guys”
Here is something I’ve noticed over the years as
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a dating coach: Most men who are not successful in dating
often make comments such as:
“Most guys are jerks.”
“I like being alone.”
“Other guys are shallow and the women who like them are
just as shallow as them.”
“I am not very comfortable around guys. I don’t know what
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to talk about when I am around them.”
As you can see, some of these comments are on
the “belief” level…meaning chances are, they are all
results of distorted thinking that do not reflect
reality. (Who’s to say most guys are jerks or that most
women are shallow?) The rest usually have something to do
with a lack of skill such as not knowing how to make
friends or how to socialize with other men.
Unfortunately, as I always say, the real
world does not really care about what you think. You can
keep telling yourself that other guys are stupid and
full of testosterone, but if you have trouble connecting
with your masculinity or connecting with other men,
you aren’t going to be an attractive “catch” in a woman’s
eye. Women like “man-ly” men. This doesn’t mean they are
shallow. It just means they are attracted to masculine men
the way you are attracted to feminine women.
If you are one of these guys, then I strongly
encourage you to stop repressing your masculine energy
just for the sake of gaining approval from women. Go
hang out with the boys and do what your mother would
have frowned upon. (Without breaking any laws, of
course.) Be competitive. Be boisterousness. You can
even be a bit rude as long as it is good humor. Stop
being afraid of upsetting other people and just do
what boys are supposed to do.
Otherwise, women will always see you as
“just a friend!”
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