12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You
“12 Ways To Know A Guy Is Flirting With You”
Yesterday, a female reader emailed me to ask, “Marius,
can you show me how to tell if a boy is flirting with me?”
Well, since I’ve been getting tons of other requests from
my female readers for ways on how to know if a guy is
interested in them, I thought I would do a quick article
on how men flirt with women.
So ladies…here is a list of signs he is flirting with
you. (And guys, here’s how to know if you are signaling
interests to a woman!)
1) See If He Tries To Attract Your Attention
If a guy is always trying to get your attention, you can
be PRETTY sure that he’s interested. Think about it. If you
didn’t find a guy intriguing, would you keep on trying to
talk to him to get his attention? A man constantly trying
to get your attention is one of the most obivous signs
he’s flirting with you.
2) See If He Tries To Stand Out From Other Guys
If a man tries HARD to stand out from other guys whenever
you are around, he’s trying to get you to notice him.
This may mean speaking a bit louder, having bolder body
movements, standing taller, or even pulling crazy
stunts to “show” he’s cool.
3) See If He Tries To Act “Alpha”
One way he will try to stand out from other guys is by
“acting alpha”. If he tries to put down other guys
whenever you are around, that’s a major sign he’s
interested in you. Other “alpha signs” include
puffing out their chests, leaning back in their chairs,
or strutting when they walk!
4) See If His Eyebrows Remain Slightly Raised
Men often raise their eyebrows slightly when they are
talking to women they are interested in. Consider
this one of the tell-tale signs men give when flirting!
5) See If He Teases You A Lot
Men rarely pay attention to women they are not interested
in. So if a guy teases you a lot, either he is a player
and teases every girl he meets, or he must have SOME
interests in you – ESPECIALLY if he combines it with
other signs of flirting.
6) See If He Touches You “Accidentally”
A guy is probably trying to get closer to you if he
touches you “accidentally” more often than he
touches a girls.
7) See If He Maintains Eye Contact
If a guy is mesmerized with you, he will hold eye
contact with you and flirt with his eyes. If he’s
shy, he will break eye contact and look away. But
after a few seconds, he will look again.
8) See If He Uses A Different Voice Tone
Just like women, men uses a different voice tone
when talking to woman. If he puts on a “special
voice” whenever he is alone with you, he is probably
flirting with you.
9) See If He Is Invading Your Physical Boundaries
A guy who is flirting with you will invading your
physical boundaries slowly. First he’ll mirror
his body language with yours. Then he’ll lean
forward as he becomes more interested in the
conversation. He may start touching your elbow
lightly when he makes a point. Before you know
it, he’ll be holding your hand, stroking your
hair, and going for a kiss.
10) See If He Is Checking You Out
If you catch him checking you out, you can be sure
that he is at least interested in you physically.
Now is the time to have a nice conversation with
him and get him to become interested with your
mind and personality as well!
11) See If He Gets Into a Cowboy Stance
Guys often slip into the “cowboy stance” when they
flirt with a woman. This consists of having his legs
spread far apart, with shoulders relaxed and thumbs
tucked into the front of the belt. Watch for this
next time you go to a nightclub.
12) See If He’ll Lend You His Coat
Guys don’t lend coats to anymore. If he lends you
his coat because you seem coat, either he’s a
gentleman, or he wants to see you “marked” as his.
(Chances are, it’s both!)
For tips on how to flirt with men,
check out: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Or, if you’re a man, then check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
It will teach you how to flirt…step-by-step!
- Marius P.
Flirting Tips For Teenagers
Flirting Tips For Teenagers
Since I get this request all the time, today I am going to write some
flirting tips for teenagers. Here goes:
1) Groom Yourself Properly
Despite what your teachers tell you, appearance does matter. We do live
in a very shallow society. You want to look your best when you flirt
with the members of the opposite sex.
Play some sports and get into shape. Groom yourself properly and
dress cleanly. You do not need plastic surgery or brand name clothes.
Just pay SOME attention so that you are not scaring girls or boys
away.
2) Show Off Your Skills
Become good at something (be it sports, leadership, or music, etc ) and
display your skills in public. The more respect people have for you, the
easier it will be for you to flirt.
Here’s a good analogy. If you’re at the very bottom of the social ladder
at your school, if you try to flirt and push too hard, people are just
going to think you are a “creep”.
But be the guy who “dresses okay” but plays the piano very well, and all
you have to do is throw in a little bit of flirting to get lots of girls.
3) Make Eye Contact
Make eye contact with everyone, especially with your crush.
Try the following trick: Make eye contact with your crush from across the
room and quickly look away. Then make eye contact again but hold their
gaze for a few seconds this time. Smile.
4) Smile
Speaking of smiling, having a nice, genuine smile can make you
look a lot more approachable.
5) Walk Tall and Look Confident
No matter you’re a girl or a boy, walk tall and look confident.
Avoid slouching. This will automatically make you look better
regardless of your looks or gender.
6) Make People Laugh Without Being the Class Clown
Make your friends and classmates laugh – without being a class
clown. If you need help in this department, then go borrow
a few books on stand up comedy from your library.
7) Use Touch To Your Advantage
Hug your crush when you get a chance, and touch their elbow
as if you’re emphasizing a point.
8) Act Like A Challenge
Remember that people like what they can’t have, so if you are
too available to your crush, they may actually like you less
as a result. But keep in mind that acting like a challenge does
not equal being aloof. If you just ignore your crush, they
may think you’re just not interested in give up. You have to
show just enough interest to keep them thinking about you, but
not so much that they move on to another challenge. It’s a fine
line that you will “get” as you become more experienced.
For more dating tips, download my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Girls, go to: http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/forwomen.html
Thanks,
Marius
How To See if a Woman Is Ready For a First Kiss
“How To See if a Woman Is Ready For a First Kiss”
Here’s a step-by-step guide on how to see if a
woman is ready to be kissed:
Step 1) Have a great date with her.
Step 2) Flirt with her and tease her plenty. Keep her laughing
during the date. Swing her around under a tree, etc.
Step 3) Make sure you are holding her hand. Don’t attempt
to kiss her if you aren’t even holding hands with her yet.
Step 4) Take her to a quiet spot. Try to find a “romantic
place” (scenic viewpoint, etc) if you can.
Step 5) Slow down your movements. Calm the energy. RELAX.
(Act like your’re together already!)
Step 6) Be silent.
Step 7) Look into her eyes.
Step 8) Reach over and brush her hair slightly. See how she reacts.
Step 9) Look into her eyes again.
Step 10) Stare down at her lips, then look back into her eyes
and smile.
Step 11) Lean over to kiss her slowly.
Step 12) Observe her reaction as approach the kiss slowly.
If she moves away, it’s a sign she wants to avoid the kiss.
Back off!
But if she doesn’t move or if she closes her eyes, it’s
a sign she wants to be kissed. Go for it!
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Deal With Emotional Vampires
“How To Deal With Emotional Vampires”
Let’s cut to the chase. Today I am going to show
you how you can protect yourself drama queens, chronic
bitches, and other emotional vampires who want to drain
you of all your energy.
1) Distance Yourself If Possible
The first point I would like to emphasize is
that you shouldn’t be dealing with emotional vampires in
the first place. Unless you have a clear reason to interact
with them (such as for work or business – see point #2),
STAY AWAY.
Emotional vampires have a tendency to just keep on
pushing and pushing your boundaries until they break
you defenses. If you let them into your personal life,
one day they WILL break you down and drain your energy.
2) Know Why You Are Dealing With Them
If you have emotional vampires around you, really
ask yourself WHY you’re dealing with them. Look beyond
your “professional” or “business” reasons. In my experience,
95% of the time, a client who has let an emotional vampire
into his or her life do so due to attraction. “Work”
or “business” are just excuses.
Here’s the perfect test: Ask yourself if you
would still let the emotional vampire be in your life if
they were physically REPULSIVE. Be honest to yourself!
3) Focus On Their Actions, Not Words
If you must absolutely deal with an emotional vampire,
then focus on their ACTIONS, not their words. What emotional
vampires SAY is often VERY different than what they do.
Ignore everything they say and focus on their ACTIONS instead.
4) Do Pay Attention To Their History
A good way to “bust” emotional vampires is by looking
at their history.
If a woman has cheated on 5 different men, chances are,
SHE was the source of problems.
If a man has had cold feet before, you can almost guarantee
he will have cold feet again.
98% of people cannot change their character. Look at how
someone has acted in the past, and you can easily anticipate how they
will act in the future.
Yes, I know it sounds assholish and cynical, but it’s really
true in the real world!
5) Set Boundaries
Set boundaries and do NOT let them be compromised. You
CANNOT play gentle with an emotional vampire and win. As soon as
you give something to them, they will ask for more. They will keep
on barraging your defenses until they wear you down.
6) Don’t Feel Guilty
Emotional vampires will make you feel very guilty about
yourself if you do not give them what they want. Don’t let their
words get to you. When in doubt, refer to point #3 and #4. (Focus
on their actions instead of their words, and remember their
history!)
7) Seek Third Party Opinions
Try to seek third party opinions. Emotional vampires are
usually very good at using half-truths to convince you they are
right. To control you, they will try to isolate you from
other sources of information and make it look like it’s the two
of you against the world. (Example: You are the only one who
understands her. Everyone else is an asshole.)
Talk to your friends and family. Heck, send me an email
and I’ll yell till I get some sense into you.
8) See Life Beyond the Relationship
Know that it is okay to leave an emotional vampire
behind. People come, people go. It’s all part of life. Focus
on the big picture and don’t let the little people hold you
back.
9) Don’t Use Logic With Them
Don’t get into a “logical argument” with an emotional
vampire because logic only works when the other party is playing
fair. Emotional vampires don’t play fair. They will just attack
your argument from different angles and wait till you say ONE
wrong word. Then they will exaggerate that one word and use
that to nullify the whole argument.
Don’t try to justify your boundaries! Just set them!
10) Ignore Tantrums
When emotional vampires don’t get their way, they will
throw tantrums just to get a reaction from you.
Don’t give them that reaction. just imagine you are dealing
with a five-year old child and do not give in at all.
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
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-Marius P.
How To Have Confident Body Language
“How To Have Confident Body Language”
1) Make eye contact. Don’t break away until other people do.
2) Have a strong, firm handshake
3) Move slowly. Don’t “freak out” at anything
4) When in doubt, just look and smile.
5) Don’t lean in too close. You will come off as needy.
6) Look up, not at the ground.
7) Sit and stand tall. Don’t slouch.
8) Don’t be afraid of taking up space.
9) Don’t cross your arms or legs. Open up.
10) Nod to show you are listening when others talk.
11) Lower your drink. Don’t hold it in front of you
to hide yourself.
12) Keep your hands out of your pockets.
13) Take slow, deep breaths
14) Do sports and Yoga to improve your posture.
15) Make your movements fluid. Don’t be rigid like a robot!
16) Don’t fidget. Hold yourself still!
17) Take large, wide steps when you walk.
18) Dress well and groom yourself. You will
feel more confident and adjust your body language
as a result.
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
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-Marius P.
The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making
“The Stupid Dating Mistakes Men Keep On Making”
No, this article isn’t about the 5 or 10 most common
dating mistakes that men make. It’s a rant on how many men
KEEP on making the same mistakes.
I am sure you have heard of the old saying, “Smart
people learn from other people’s mistakes, average people
learn from their own mistakes, stupid people never learn.”
Unfortunately, when it comes to dating, most
people are stupid!
9 out of 10 clients I work with KNOW what their
problems are…but they don’t want to change because of
the emotions involved.
So…today I would like to challenge you with the
following question:
“What have you learned from your own dating mistakes
in the past year? And have you CHANGED?”
For example…
Are you still hung up on that one girl because
you just can’t let her go?
Do you still find yourself disrespected by women because
you are “too nice” to them?
Do you read tons of dating articles and books but
never do anything with the information?
Do you always get the same negative reaction when you
approach a woman? (This means you’re doing something WRONG,
by the way.)
Do women always lose interest in you after a few days
or weeks?
Do you continue to find yourself attracted to women
with bad character who are not good for you?
Here’s the golden rule: If you keep on getting
the same results that you don’t LIKE, it only means you are
making SOME kind of a mistake OVER and OVER again.
If you know the mistakes you are making, then it’s
time to have a little self-discipline to FIX YOURSELF. (For
help, read my “Smart Dating Course” or “Smart Relationships
Course“.)
If you don’t even know what mistakes you are making,
then you need to sit down and really THINK about what it is
that you are doing wrong. Pull back from the situation
and apply CRITICAL THINKING. Read my books and analyze your
particular situation. CLEAR UP YOUR MIND, put your emotions
aside, and apply COMMON SENSE.
Put this simple but effective advice into practice,
and I promise you will see improved results!
For more dating articles, check out my dating
newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
-Marius P.
How To Attract Shy Women
“How To Attract Shy Women”
I am often asked, “Marius, the girl I like doesn’t really
flirt back because she’s really shy. What can I do to get her?”
My answer is simple: Take the lead and keep flirting!
What most people don’t understand about shy folks is that
just like all people, they respect leadership. They may not TELL
you that they like the attention you are giving them, but it does
not mean they want you to stop.
In 9 out of 10 situations, they are just looking for
someone (ANYONE) to lead.
But…how dow you know when you should REALLY stop?
How do you know when a girl wants you to leave her alone?
By using my green light theory!
When you are flirting with a woman, pretend you are
at a street intersection.
If you see a red light (aka she gets annoyed or tells
you to stop), stop immediately. Then pull back and try again.
(See if the red light ever turns green before you quit!)
If you see a green light (she is flirting back),
then keep advancing.
If you see a yellow light (you’re not sure how she feels),
then it just means you haven’t advanced enough yet. So push
ahead until you finally see a red OR green light.
Remember: all the same basic rules apply no matter who
you are flirting with. Break the “Smart Dating Rules” just
because think a girl is “special”, “shy”, or “unique”, and you
will end up breaking your own game!
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-Marius P.
How To Be More Decisive Around Women
“How To Be More Decisive Around Women”
If you have been in the dating game for awhile,
you should know that women do not like men who are indecisive.
This is a simple concept that most “nice guys” either don’t get
or can’t do: If you have trouble making quick decisions or if you
always rely on a woman to make all the decisions for you, she will
eventually lose all romantic respect for you because you are not
acting like a man.
Here are a few ways you can become more decisive around
women:
1) Come prepared.
The first thing you can do is to be more prepared. For
example,if you bring a woman into your environment instead of going
into her world, you will be able to most of the decisions naturally
since you are in your own environment.
Let’s say you drive to a woman’s town and she takes you to
a good little restaurant she goes to all the time. She knows
all the items on the menu and even makes a suggestion for you.
She orders the wine because she’s been there so many times.
After the meal, she takes you around the neighborhood and stops by
the local convenience store because she needs to pick something up.
Do you think her romantic respect for you will increase from
taking you around?
Now imagine HER coming into YOUR world. Imagine you taking
HER to your favorite restaurant where the head waiter knows you.
Much better, isn’t it?
2) Don’t force yourself to be agreeable
If you find yourself in disagreement with a woman, verbalize
it! Don’t just agree with her because you do not want to piss her off.
Act like a man and state your opinion. Butt heads if necessary. Learn
to say “no” and call her out on her bullsh** if she gives you any.
She will respect you for it.
3) Be flexible
While you don’t want to be too agreeable, you shouldn’t be
too rigid either. Pick your battles wisely. Be flexible when it comes
to the SMALL stuff. If everything has to be your way, you’re not going
to look decisive. You’re going to look like a control freak instead.
4) Be spontaneous
Even if your decisions are well-planned ahead, you want to
come across as spontaneous. You know how good comedians always seem
like they are just naturally funny when they’re doing a show?
Guess what? Everything has been scripted out ahead of time, right
down to the smallest pause.
You want to apply this sample philosophy to your love life.
Prepare ahead of time, but act as if all of your decisions have just
come to you on the spot. The girls are going to think you’re amazingly
smart.
5) Don’t over-complicate things
A lot of indecisive guys make the mistake of over-analyzing
a situation. If you look at how successful people think, they are
usually great at filtering the garbage and focusing on the one or
two variables that are at the core of an issue. If you do the same,
you will see that it will be a lot easier for you to make quick
decisions.
6) Don’t worry about the outcome
When it comes to dating, many men are afraid of making
a move because they don’t want to mess up. Get rid of that mentality
now. Stop worrying about the outcome and just do it. Stop worrying
about the outcome and just live the moment!
7) Improve your leadership ability
Try to improve yourself by forcing yourself to
take on some kind of a leadership position. Go volunteer.
Start a club at university. Heck. Organize your own
paintball squad. The more decisions you have to make on
a daily basis, the easier it will become.
8) Practice, practice, practice!
How do soldiers know when to shoot and when NOT to shoot
in a combat environment? Through hard training, of course. The
more you put yourself in an environment where you have to make
quick decisions, the easier it will become. So get off your
computer and start talking to girls!
9) Have prior knowledge to draw from
Practice will only reinforce BAD habits if you do not
know what you are doing. So go through all of my old newsletters
and get my “Smart Dating Course” if you can afford it. It is
totally worth it. With close to a thousand pages of material
in the members area, it is the most complete, detailed,
step-by-step system available for you, period!
From meeting and approaching women to asking
them out, closing for phone numbers, and turning them
into girlfriends, I will show you everything you need
to know to start dating the girls you have always wanted
to date.
Don’t delay any longer. Spice up your love life
now with my “Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datingsupportcenter.com/smartdatingcourse.html
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-Marius P.
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“In the past, I had trouble even making eye contact with women,
much less talking to them. This book taught me how to do both
those things and more. Now I’m filled with a newfound confidence;
I even pick and choose who I want to strike up a conversation
with. I would definitely recommend this book to any guy who wants
to turn his social life around for the better.”
- C.Y. from San Francisco, California
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Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case
“Marius Panzarella’s Thoughts on the George Sodini Case”
Quite a few readers have emailed me to ask for my opinion
of the George Sodini case…so I thought I’d do a quick commentary
for all the men and women on my newsletter:
1) I’ve always thought something like this would happen sooner
or later. (From some of the nutcase emails I have received.) This is
why I often tell my more “extreme” readers to seek therapy. I don’t
mean it as an insult – some guys really need help.
2) Anger is dangerous. If you see yourself becoming angry at “all”
men or women, seek therapy immediately. Blaming other people for your
failures won’t help you. It will only hurt you (and other people)
in the long run. Best case scenario is you pick up some sort of
passive-aggressiveness that makes you a useless person to society.
Worst case scenario is that you pick up a gun and take out
innocent people whom you think have done you wrong.
3) It is really not healthy to be bothered by daddy or mommy issues
by the time you are 30. There has to be a point when you admit to
yourself that you are mature enough to live life your way. Focus on
where you are going instead of where you came from! Blaming
your past won’t solve anything in the long run.
4) If you look at George Sodini’s picture, he is not a bad looking
man at all. On top of that, he has a good job and is quite intelligent
according to new reports.
However, when you watch his videos Youtube, you will find a certain
amount of creepiness. Maybe that is the reason everybody rejected
him. Not because of his looks, wealth, or social status – but
because of his personality.
5) Even his apartment is a little creepy. There is absolutely no
sense of character. It reveals no information about his life except
that it is very clean. How are women supposed to feel comfortable
in such an environment?
A man’s apartment should be congruent with his identify and image.
Having plants, paintings, and decorations will make a woman a lot
more comfortable because you will see like a “real person” instead of
a serial murderer who has just moved into the neighborhood.
6) It is important to have self-worth and strong values. As I always
say, plenty of successful people are screwed up in the head. (Intelligent
people are often a little odd.) But because they have ambitions, they
learn to control their crazy side or even use their insecurities as
their fuel for success.
If your only goal in life is to get a girlfriend or boyfriend…sorry
to say this, but you don’t deserve one.
7) It is really too bad that this case has brought out the worst in
a lot of people:
- There are numerous men and women flaming the other gender on Internet
forums
- Some dating coaches are using this as an opportunity to get backlinks
from news sites by leaving comments with links to their websites
- Some dating coaches (and their fans) are already smack-talking each other
on forums and blogs.
My view: Learn from this, but let’s not look for people to blame…
8) It is important to ask “why” and “how” instead of just letting your
emotions take over. Sometimes you may feel like you want revenge. But
when you really think about “why”, you will see that it’s very childish
and unproductive.
If someone hurts you, instead of just feeling victimized, think “why”
they hurt you before you act blindly. Once you recognize why the other
party has made a mistake, you may not be so angry anymore. Sometimes
you will see that it is much more productive to just walk away instead
of hurting the person back.
9) Learn to SHOW emotions in a healthy way before they turn into
passive-aggressiveness. The trouble with a lot of men is that they
are afraid of showing emotions. So they hide their feelings while
putting on a “we’re best friends” facade when they’re actually after
romance or sex. They keep this up until they can’t hold it in anymore
and “confess” all of their feelings out of the blue. The woman is shocked
and don’t know how to react as a result.
Flirting and creating sexual chemistry allow you to emote your
potential interests instead of putting on a facade.
10) Learn to take rejection well. Not every woman you like will like you
back, just like you will not like every woman who likes you. Everyone
has their own preferences. You can make yourself more likable through
my “Smart Dating Course”, but you will still not have a 100%
success rate.
Rejection doesn’t mean you are a loser. The only loser is a person
who can’t handle rejection!
11) Be assertive and decisive. Have a little bit of backbone. Women
don’t like guys who flip-flop between different opinions just to please
a woman – which from Sodini’s body language is what I guess he did.
12) “I want to spill my heart and tell you my life sucks” blogs are for
losers. They dramatize situations and make you feel even more victimized.
Instead of “telling” people about your feelings and failures, take
action to change and improve your habits and personality. (They are linked.)
It’s a much more productive use of your time!
For more on my dating and relationship, check out my
“Smart Dating Course” at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com/ebook.html
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
Picking Up Waitresses and Bartenders
“Picking Up Waitresses and Bartenders”
A question that I get all the time is, “I don’t know
if this bartender is interested in me or not. Is she flirting
because she likes me, or is she just flirting for tips? How can
I tell?”
Well, I can tell you right now that in 90% of cases, a waitress
is flirting for tips. That’s just reality. Anyone who makes
a living in tips has learned the skills to flirt in his or
her way – be it the valet, the cab driver, or the ballhop.
Heck, even I am flirting with you right now – so that
you will buy my ebook, Right?
So…what should you do if you want to flirt with a waitress
or bartender?
First start by teasing her about bad service. Make
sure you keep a smile on your face to show you are just kidding.
For example. if you are ordering wine, show disgust when you
taste it. Then smile and say, “Bet you don’t get that very often.
Have you ever seen anyone send their wine back?”
Next, start to have longer and longer conversation
exchanges each time she comes to your table. Start talking about
things that are outside of her work environment and see how she
responds.
Build rapport based on non-threatening topics such as:
- Family
- Hobby
- Day Occupation
- Plans for the future
If she is more receptive to your advances than she is
to other customers, then go for her phone number *and* Facebook
account. (Some girls don’t want to give their numbers out but
don’t mind giving out their Facebok accounts.) Or even better,
instead of trying to get her number, ask her when her shift
ends and offer to meet her at the bar for a drink.
If that’s not possible, then tell her you’ll be with
some friends at a popular bar later on, and that she’s welcome
to join you. You can even offer her number so she can call you
if she needs a ride.
Beyond that, you will just have to leave it up to chance.
Waitresses and bartenders do get hit on a lot and may
not be interested in you. That’s okay. Just move on.
After all, they are paid to flirt back! So why
not just flirt and not worry about it?
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What If Your Parents Have Ruined Your Game
“What If Your Parents Have Ruined Your Game”
One of the most common excuses I hear from my readers
is that they are not good with women because of their childhood
or past. Here are some of the excuses I’ve heard:
“I used to be good but my divorce has devastated me.”
“My mom has raised me to be polite around women.” (So?)
“I was a nerd back in high school…”
“I was not raised to be masculine.”
“Years of rejection have made me give up any hope.”
These men like to ask me for advice on how to overcome
their childhood or past problems so that they can become successful
with women.
Here is what I like to tell them:
You never overcome anything. You move on.
Listen. You cannot make your history go away. A part of
your history will always be a part of you. There’s no use to
blame anyone (including yourself) or to burden yourself with shame,
guilt, or remorse. There is no way to go back in time and fix
anything. What’s done is done. Move on.
If you choose to let go and dismiss the bad things
that have happened to you in the past, then you will be able
to look to the future and improve yourself. Your past circumstances
or mistakes will then just become old news.
As Carl Jung said, “People do not solve their
psychological problems, in my experience. They outgrow them.”
How about you? Are you willing to outgrow your past
problems?
If you want real power, you must learn to let go
of your past, period!
Really think hard about this.
And if you are ready to put your past behind and
make positive changes to your life, then consider getting
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“Marius…I just want to thank you for showing me all the little
secrets about attracting women. Thanks to you, I am now dating
the girl I’ve had a crush with for 2 years. We’re engaged and
getting married next fall! Thanks!”
-L.C. from Seattle, Washington
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The Rule of Five in Dating
“The Rule of Five in Dating”
Here’s a new rule to my “Smart Dating System”:
You can judge a person’s character 99% of the time
by looking at the five closest people they associate themselves
with.
You may have heard that if you hang around with
criminals long enough, eventually you’ll become one…or
that if you hang around with angry or depressed people,
eventually you may become one of them as well.
After helping men and women with their love lives
for almost a decade now, I must confirm the above theory
to be true. You ARE who you associate yourself with.
Here are a few tests:
Take a look at the five people you spend the most time
with. Then…
1) Ask yourself if you have similar interests.
2) Take their average income. See if your own earnings
are close to that average.
3) Take their average grades if you are still in school.
See if your own grades are close.
4) Take their average success in dating. See if your
own success is close.
5) Take the number of hours they spend playing video
games a week. (This is for teenagers.) Find the average
and compare to your own.
6) Look at their success in life in general. Take the
average and compare to your own.
The list of tests can go on and on!
Now…how does this apply to dating and women?
First of all, the most important point I am trying to make
here is that it is very, very important to surround yourself
with GOOD people that you want to emulate. Why? Because
one way or another, the people around you are going to
influence you everyday actions and habits. So, if you want
to have a better life (be it in your career or in your love
life), you should look for people who are living the life
you want and simply allow their everyday actions and habits
to influence your own behavior.
This test also works for the women you’re
interested in dating. Consider it a character test. You
can tell the character of a woman by looking at her five
closest friends. For example, if her five best friends
have all cheated before, I can almost guarantee you
she will cheat on you one day.
So keep that in mind next time a woman talks
about her cheating girl friends!
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The Importance of Shifting Your Priorities In Dating and in Life (Part Two)
“The Importance of Shifting Your Priorities In Dating and in Life (Part Two)”
Last time I talked about the importance of shifting your
priorities in dating and in life because if you go after the
wrong priorities at the wrong stage of life it is going to
hurt your chances with women as well as your future.
As an example, I mentioned how it does not make sense
to just focus on your physique once you are over 35. I mentioned
that most 35 year old men are not going to look as good as 25 year
olds, and that gym-rats who spend too much time inside the gym
are probably going to be not as well off as other men financially
because they have not been focusing on their careers as much. As
a conclusion, I mentioned that the younger guys would still be better
looking, while the guys their age would be better off financially and
more established career-wise.
For this comment, I received a lot of praise as well as
some criticism. A few angry men in their mid-30’s emailed
me to tell me to take them off my newsletter. Some claimed to look
better than “any 25 year old”. Some claimed 25 year olds and 35 year
olds don’t really that much different. One guy even mentioned
that guys with good bodybuilding genetics will look better than
a 25 year guy with bad genetics. (As if that changes the lesson
I was trying to share…)
To me, these guys were just nitpicking minor points. Do
ALL guys in their thirties look as good as they used to when they
were still in their early 20’s? Even if they do, does it really
matter? Is it really something to be obsessed about? The fact that
these got pissed off at someone saying men in their age group
GENERALLY do not look as good as younger men is a sign that they
have real self-image problems.
A true man should know that with age comes wisdom,
wealth, and power. Looking youthful is only icing on the cake.
As I always say, it’s all about your CUMULATIVE SCORE. It’s
not one thing, but a COMBINATION of things, that makes you
an attractive man. So if you want to focus solely on looks,
go ahead. You’ll eventually fall behind because time is
against you.=)
Here’s another one of my life principles: A man is
only as strong as his biggest weakness. If you are too obsessed
about looks, money, or any other one thing, that’s going to
cause you real problems in the long run. I see it all the time
as a dating coach. Here’s an extreme example: You can be rich,
good looking, and smart. Add a bad addiction that you are
unwilling to cure, and it may destroy all of your relationships.
Here’s an exercise you should do:
1) Think about what women care about in your age group. Write
down some action steps to improve yourself in these areas.
2) Think about what women in your age group will care more
and more about as they age. Write down some action steps for
these too.
3) Work on both.
4) Next, identify your greatest weakness in dating and
relationships. It could be something small and insignificant
such as not knowing how to close a kiss. Or it could be
something much deeper, such as always falling for crazy
psycho chicks because you like drama. (This can ruin you!)
5) Think about how to fix your weakness and write down some
action steps.
This exercise will give you a “blueprint” on how to bulletproof
your love life over time. Not only will it help you both in the short and
long run, it will also limit your weaknesses so that they don’t hold
you back. (One big flaw is all it takes to reduce your cumulative score
to zero!!!)
Now go have fun with the exercise!
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Body Language Mistakes Men Make With Women
“Body Language Mistakes Men Make With Women”
Here are seven common body languages men make with
women:
1) Not Taking Enough Room
One of the most common body language mistakes guys make
around women is not taking enough personal space. Masculine men
and alpha males take up more room than guys without much
confidence. Confident men don’t hide in the corner. They
make bold moves and invade other people’s personal space instead
of just keeping to themselves.
Try to walk tall, move slowly, and expand your personal
space. Instead of crossing your arms, spread them out. Instead
of keeping your legs crossed when you sit (like a woman…),
leave them open!
2) Slouching / Looking At The Ground
Slouching and looking at the ground almost always
come together. Both are signs of insecurity. If you are
always looking at the ground when you walk, you will look
like you are trying to avoid eye contact with people. Keep
your noble chin up when you walk!
3) Moving Too Quickly
Powerful men usually take slow but confident steps.
So don’t start flaming all over when you are with a woman
no matter how nervous or excited you are. Try to create an
aura of power around yourself but slowing down your movements.
4) Having Shifty Eyes
A sure sign of insecurity is having shify eyes. It
really makes it look like you are avoiding eye contact
for whatever reason.
Don’t be afraid of letting people catch you checking
them out. Just look back and smile!
5) Looking Too Serious
If you always have a serious look on your face, women
are not going to think you are a very fun person. Make sure
you don’t give the impression of being too stiff or serious!
6) Being Too Stiff
Speaking of stiffness, try to relax your body language
as much as possible. Being stiff creates tension, which in turn
makes you more nervous and insecure – not exactly the right
mindset to meet women!
7) Shredding Napkins and Other “Little Habits”
If you have any small “body language habits” such as
shredding napkins at the dining table or playing with your
shirt buttons when talking to a girl, you should try to
fix it. Not only can it be weird and distracting to a woman, it
may also give the impression that you are nervous or insecure!
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How To Get Girls By…Well…Connecting With Other Guys
“HoW To Get Girls By…Well…Connecting With Other Guys”
Here is something I’ve noticed over the years as
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often make comments such as:
“Most guys are jerks.”
“I like being alone.”
“Other guys are shallow and the women who like them are
just as shallow as them.”
“I am not very comfortable around guys. I don’t know what
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to talk about when I am around them.”
As you can see, some of these comments are on
the “belief” level…meaning chances are, they are all
results of distorted thinking that do not reflect
reality. (Who’s to say most guys are jerks or that most
women are shallow?) The rest usually have something to do
with a lack of skill such as not knowing how to make
friends or how to socialize with other men.
Unfortunately, as I always say, the real
world does not really care about what you think. You can
keep telling yourself that other guys are stupid and
full of testosterone, but if you have trouble connecting
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you aren’t going to be an attractive “catch” in a woman’s
eye. Women like “man-ly” men. This doesn’t mean they are
shallow. It just means they are attracted to masculine men
the way you are attracted to feminine women.
If you are one of these guys, then I strongly
encourage you to stop repressing your masculine energy
just for the sake of gaining approval from women. Go
hang out with the boys and do what your mother would
have frowned upon. (Without breaking any laws, of
course.) Be competitive. Be boisterousness. You can
even be a bit rude as long as it is good humor. Stop
being afraid of upsetting other people and just do
what boys are supposed to do.
Otherwise, women will always see you as
“just a friend!”
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Biggest Misconception About Being A Challenge To Women
“Biggest Misconception About Being A Challenge To Women”
One of the questions I get from my readers all the
time is, “Marius, I love what you teach me about
acting like a challenge. I don’t call women back when they
call me and I never show any interest in the women I
like. How come they are still not chasing after me?”
The answer is actually quite simple: Because
acting like a challenge does NOT equal to acting
aloof.
If you never call women back, they are going to
stop calling eventually.
If you never flirt with women, they aren’t
going to keep on flirting with you.
It’s as simple as that.
Unlike acting aloof, acting like a challenge
requires you taking on more PROACTIVE action.
For example, When a woman flirt with you,
you shouldn’t just ignore it. You should tease her
and accuse her of hitting on you.
Or when a woman asks you for a favor, you
shouldn’t just say no because you do not want to
appear weak. You should ask for something in return
(like a kiss) or tease her a bit before you give it
to her.
Or…if you see a missed call from a woman,
you shouldn’t just ignore it. Instead, you should call
her back when she least expects it.
Get it?
The key is to have FUN with a woman instead
of just “pulling back”. Keep this in mind, and you
are going to do very well!
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The Importance of Shifting Your Priorities In Dating and in Life
“The Importance of Shifting Your Priorities In Dating and in Life”
Awhile ago, I talked about the different stages in my
“romantic intelligence” model and how some old “players” are really
losers because they are still stuck at a stage they should have
abandoned years ago. Today I’m going to talk about how chasing
after the wrong priorities can make you retarded over time as well.
Not accepting your age and the “meanings” associated
with it will ultimately erode your confidence and drain you of
energy. It will also put you behind other men. For example, imagine
spending 4 hours at the gym a day at age 35 when other men your age
are focusing on their careers. When it comes to competing against
younger men on your physique, you are going to lose because even
if you do get a nice six-pack, you aren’t going to look as good
as a 25 year old. To make things worse, because you are spending
so much time inside the gym due to your insecurity, you aren’t
going to be as well as other guys financially because you haven’t
been focusing on your career. Either way, you’re going to get
left behind. The younger guys will still be better looking, and
when compared to men your age, you will be poorer and less well-
established.
Of course, looking too far ahead is also not a very good
thing. For example, let’s say you are 19 and you think you are
mature because all you care about is making money or getting into
business. Sure, you may be rich by the time you are 30. But
at the same time, you may regret not having a lot of fun in college.
You may even have an early mid-life crisis and end up trying to
relive your past again. I see it happen all the time.
My advice? Be aware of which life stage you are and adjust
yourself accordingly. Look towards the future without getting too
paranoid, and let your past becomes history before it drags you
down. Live a balanced life and just make the best out of every
moment.
In 20 years, you will thank me for this lesson. (If you
still remember me!)
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20 Rules To Become the Man Women Adore
“20 Rules To Become the Man Women Adore”
Here are 20 rules to follow if you want to become
the man women adore.
1) Flirt and act like a challenge
2) Live with integrity. This allows you to stand
up for yourself and NOT seek approval from people,
including women.
3) Accept the consequences of your own actions.
4) Take compliments well instead of acting all embarrassed.
5) Be a leader
6) Be in control of a date. Allow a woman to just relax
and enjoy herself
7) Do not seek a woman’s approval
8) Always do something 100 percent, no matter what it is
9) Stop thinking a woman will fill up your empty heart
10) Get used to beautiful women. Don’t let them intimidate you
11) Improve your social and wealth status. It’s not a crime to
be rich or powerful
12) Explore your creative side. Paint or start a band
13) Embrace your masculinity
14) Be competitive
15) Do not avoid confrontations. Face difficult situations
straight on
16) Have fun
17) Be a man and don’t rely on your date to make decisions
18) Live life and be adventurous
19) Try out new things and new places
20) Expect the best from other people, not just yourself
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A Short Guide To Raising Your Social Proof With Women
“A Short Guide To Raising Your Social Proof With Women”
Here are a few things you can to do raise your
social proof so that women respect you more, in no
particular order:
1) Learn to play the guitar. It always impresses women.
2) Make money. Sounds shallow? Yes. But it helps.
3) Have lots of friends. If you are unpopular, think about why.
4) Get a motorcycle. I know guys who get girls by fixing
their bikes on the sidewalk every weekend.
5) Be a leader. Women love powerful men.
6) Travel. Be adventurous and have tons of cool stories
to tell.
7) Get a nice haircut.
8) Dress well.
9) Get an advanced degree. Women respect intelligent men.
10) Play in a band. It does not matter if you suck. Most
people will think you are cool anyway.
11) Be seen with women. Bring your cousins if you have to.
12) Be in the top 20% no matter what you do. Use this
as a golden rule to life.
13) Be picky about your food.
14) Give back to the community.
15) Have strong goals and be ambitious.
16) Have nice accessroies and gadgets…like a nice watch
or belt.
17) Wear nice shoes.
18) Learn magic or other “cool” skills you can show off.
19) Act in plays or be a performer in general.
20) Know your wine.
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Where Is This Relationship Going?
“Where Is This Relationship Going?”
In my opinion, one of the stupidist questions
a man (or woman) can ask at the beginning of a relationship
is “Where is this relationship going?”
9 out of 10 times, it will take things to a
REALLY bad direction.
Why? Because it puts unnecessary pressure on the
person you are asking. You are basically forcing
the people to say “yes” to a relationship and regretting
it later. (Remember: Nobody likes to be forced. Even if
they like you, their attraction will drop if they feel like
they have been forced to do something.)
Or even worse, if the person is assertive, they
will probably say something like, “I am not ready yet.
Let’s just be friends for now.”
As I always say, if two people are attracted to
each other and they are compatible without much character
flaws, chances are they are going to end up in a relationship
provided there aren’t too many negative forces in play.
Asking or trying to push for a relationship won’t
help. Instead, it will make you desperate.
Here’s the bottom line: If a relationship is going to
happen, it will happen naturally. If it won’t happen, then
no matter how many times you ask or how much you push,
it just ain’t going to happen!
The ONLY time you should use this question is if you
have been “dating” for months but it feels like the person
you are with is just playing you and you do not wish to waste
any more time. In that case, you should not be afraid to
pop the question, and you should be ready to cut all ties
and move on if you do not like the answer.
The same thing also applies to existing relationships.
If you feel things are doing down the hill with your
relationships, don’t ask “So where is this relationship going?”
unless you are ready to break up. Instead, take action to
fix the issues. If the chemistry is dying, then bring back
the spark using what you have learned from my “Smart
Relationships Course
“. If you feel like your partner is taking
you for granted, then pull back so you are more of a challenge.
If you feel like you are having communication problems,
then work on that WITHOUT asking where the relationship is
going.
The only time you should pop the “Where is this
relationship going” question is when things are so bad that
you want to save it one LAST time before you are out the
door!
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Where To Take Women On Dates
“Where To Take Women On Dates”
Here are a few good ideas for a first
date.
1) Bowling
Bowling is a good example of a “fun”
date. You will get to interact with her, and
if you are good at bowling, you can even teach
her a trick or too.
2) Dessert
Women can rarely turn down a good dessert.
Look for a good dessert place in your town and
take women there for a date. They’ll love it!
3) Ice Skating
Ice-skating isn’t just a cheesy date
idea from movies. It actually works. Hold her
hand and teach her how to skate if she doesn’t
know how.
4) Mini Golf
Just like ice-skating and bowling,
mini golf is a fun date that will allow you
to interact with her.
5) Dinner At Home
Offer to cook her dinner or to let her
cook YOU dinner at your house. It’s nice, casual
AND romantic!
6) Dinner Theatre
Instead of just going out for food, look
for a dinner theatre for a fun evening of
entertainment.
7) Picnic
Picnics are fun. Be classy and get some
nice cheese from your local specialty
cheese shop!
8) Art Museum
If the woman is the artsy type, take her
to an art gallery or museum. To avoid looking like
an idiot, make sure you know at least a little bit
about art yourself…
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10 Common Dating Myths Busted By Marius Panzarella
“10 Common Dating Myths Busted By Marius Panzarella ”
Here’s my latest ebook gift for my readers:
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How To Flirt With Women
“How To Flirt With Women”
I am often asked, “Marius, how exactly do I flirt
with women?”
Here is a list of flirting techniques that you
can use to flirt with women, as well as a link to an ebook
gift on flirting that you can download and read.
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Flirting Technique: Eye-Contact
Most of flirting is done with your eyes. Keep good
eye-contact on a woman when you talk to her. Just keep
your eyes focused on her bit “too long.”
Flirting Technique: Say “Hello” With Energy
When you approach a woman, say “Hello” in a flirty way.
It will make her think you e sexier than the average
geek who walks up to her and gives her a shy “Hi”.
Flirting Technique: Shake Her Hand A Bit Too Long
When you shake her hand, let your hand stay on hers
for a bit too long and then brush against her hand as
you pull back. Do this while smiling and looking into
her eyes sincerely. You don want to come off as a
pervert.
Flirting Technique: Repeat The Woman Name
As you talk to her, repeat her name as much as you can.
Say her name slow, softly and sensually each time you
say it.
Example: “Hello, De-bbie, I am very glad you came
here…”
Flirting Technique: Stir Your Drink
Stir your drink with a rhythm as you talk to her.
The effect can be “hypnotizing” under the right
atmosphere.
Flirting Technique: Lower Your Volume
Lower and lower your volume so she has to lean towards
you to listen.
Flirting Technique: Whisper
When she gets close enough, whisper to her. This works
well in a bar, when the music is so loud you have to
talk in each other ears.
Flirting Technique: Be Playful
Ask yourself the following questions:
1) How much fun can I have tonight?
2) What sorts of interesting things can I
find out about this girl?
Flirting Technique: Use Nicknames
When you get closer to a woman, make up a cute nickname
for her.
Flirting Technique: Touch Her Back
If she starts touching you, then touch her on the
shoulder or arm when you laugh. Increase the frequency of
touching as the night goes on.
Flirting Technique: Leave Her Wanting More
Do what strippers do the guys. Get a girl all hot and
then leave her wanting more!
Flirting Technique: Laugh At Her Jokes
Laugh at her jokes whenever she makes one. Touch her on
the arm lightly when you laugh if she already touching you.
Flirting Technique: Listen To Her Stories
Pay attention to what she says. Be focused on her, not
on the hot waitress.
Flirting Technique: Drop A Compliment
Drop her a compliment every once in awhile. Not too often
though!
Flirting Technique: Tease Her
Incorporate teasing into your flirting. Tease her till
she’s wet!
Flirting Technique: Get More Personal
Ask her more and more personal questions as the evening
progresses. Things about her childhood, etc!
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