The Arnold Syndrome and Dating
Posted on November 21, 2006 - Filed Under Dating Tips
“The Arnold Syndrome and Dating”
If there is something that you don’t have to worry
about dating or being a challenge as a novice Smart Dater,
it’s “being too much of a challenge” or “acting like a jerk”.
A lot of guys email me and say, “Marius…I am trying
to act like a challenge but I don’t want to risk acting like
a jerk” or “I am afraid I will be too much of a challenge
if I try this.”
You know what? For most of you, that is NOT going
to happen.
See..this is what I call the “Arnold Syndrome”…
Have you ever heard a skinny guy talking
about how he doesn’t want to do sports or workout because
he does not want to “look like Arnold”?
Every time I hear a skinny guy talk about how
“disgusting” bodybuilding is, I just want to laugh. No
offence to the skinny guy…but even if he works out his
hardest, the chances of him being as big as “Arnold” are
very slim. He’ll probably get a great-looking body in a few
years, but he’s NOT going to become Arnold overnight. (Unless
he becomes a professional bodybuilder and puts a lot of
dedication into the art!)
I think this “success sucks” attitude is just
another perfect example of having chronic self-imposed
limitations.
Just like the skinny guy does not have a valid
reason to stay out of the gym, the beginning Smart Dater
does not have an excuse to NOT be a challenge.
He should be EXPLORING and EXPANDING his boundaries,
not setting up new ones before he even begins.
Here’s the bottom line: to see any good results,
you must stretch yourself BEYOND your normal boundaries.
A voice teacher has once told me that it’s okay
to elongate my vowels much more than I usually do and not
worry about sounding silly…because chances are I will
eventually drop back when become more relaxed or tired.
The same applies to dating and being a challenge.
You should aim for hitting 125%, because you’re
going to drop back to 100% naturally overtime. But if you
start at 80%, then you’re going to drop back to 50% -
meaning you’re not going to make much progress at all.
For this week’s assignment, I want you to go just
a bit overboard with your flirting and teasing. Go beyond
your usual boundaries…and see if you get any different
results!
You could be well-surprised!
If you want more tips on how to flirt, tease,
and act like a COMPLETE CHALLENGE to women…then sign up
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You’ll wish you had signed up for it earlier!
- Marius Panzarella
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