Are Women Shallow?
“Are Women Shallow?”
As a dating coach, one complaint I hear from frustrated
men all the time is that “women are shallow.” According to these
guys, women are only attracted to men who are good-looking,
rich, and out-going.
I disagree.
I think that most PEOPLE – not just women – are shallow
to a certain degree, and that one should not blame a woman
for having certain expectations when it comes to meeting men.
After all, aren’t you attracted to women who are good
looking? Isn’t that shallow too?
Let’s go back to my famous “fat chick with beard”
analogy.
I want you to imagine a fat, ugly woman with a THICK
BEARD on her face. If it weren’t for the two baggy tits hanging
down her fat body, you wouldn’t even be able to tell she is
a woman. Her voice is hoarse and she is missing a few teeth.
You cover your nose as she walks up to you because she stinks.
BUT…she has a real sweet personality…and she would
never, never cheat on you.
Are you going to be attracted to her?
I didn’t think so.
Now let’s say there’s a hot girl standing in front
of you. She looks like everything you would want in a movie.
So even though you know nothing about her yet, do you think
you might be interested in meeting her – even just to find
out if she has brains and a good personality to go with
that body?
Probably.
My point is that most people are at least a LITTLE
bit shallow. I’ll even admit I am a little bit shallow
myself. Do I want a 300 pound woman in my bed? No. But does
that mean I will only date anorexic women? No, of course
not. I just want a woman with enough self-respect for
herself to not eat 5000 calories a day.
Similarly, just because a woman does not “mind”
the fact that a man is successful does not mean that
she is a gold-digger. It really does not mean that she
is “shallow.”
Instead of complaining that women are shallow,
men should take a good look at themselves and see if
there’re any ways they can improve themselves for the
better.
Cleaning up and dressing well can make a man
move up the attraction scale by at least a few points.
Learning how to flirt and socialize with women
can help a man move up the attraction by MANY points.
There’s no use going against the little bit
of shallowness in human nature. Instead of wishing
that people were not shallow “at all”, think about
how to use it to help yourself and those around you.
Being a rebel against the system may protect
your ego, but it won’t do you any good in the long run…
Because reality IS reality!
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Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
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I’d have to disagree with this article. Women stereotype men as shallow all of the time, and it’s quite obvious. Men are shallow. Men are much more about appearances. However, women do not carry the same burden as stereotypers when in fact, they are just as shallow. The simply care about different things. Appearances aren’t as important, but money is much more important to women. These facts are much more pronounched if you’ve ever traveled or lived outside of the western-world, where lofty goals like equality are scoffed at in favor of mere survival. I think the problem men have with this is that men must walk around exisiting as ‘the shallow sex’ when the quality exists naturally in both sexes.
To be honest, I am not sure what your point is. If you have read my article carefully, you will see that I was not accusing a gender of being most shallow than the other. It just seems like you want to say women think men are the shallow sex, and that’s not what the article is even about.
Both men and women are equally shallow and slaves to their biologically hardwired genes. But I think men get a worse rap for being shallow. Men are visual creatures, and want sex all the time for sure. But women are visual too. Both sexes lust after the opposite sex. However on a purely visual level, I think women focus on the face of a man while men focus on the body of women more. Just a theory. But based on experience and observation, I found this to be generally true. Let’s be honest, men will lust after a woman with an average or even ugly face if she has a banging body. But visually speaking, women tend to go weak in the knees at the site of a man with a Handsome face. You know that look women get when a guy walks in the room and they grab on to their friends arm and motion for them to look at the hunk that just walked in. I bet it’s not because he has a nice body alone…although he might. No. That kind of reaction is generally reserved for the men with the chiseled handsome faces. A guy with a great body but an ugly or avg face is not gonna get that same reaction. Otherwise every guy who works out in the gym on a regular basis would be considered a hunk and getting laid right and left. But flip this scenario around…..and have a woman with an ugly or avg face but a banging body walk into a room, and every guys head will snap around to look. The inequality here is that a woman can work out and sculpt her body if she is overweight, or get breast implants( if she chooses) and bam! She will get noticed by the opposite sex. She will have that sexual power simply by virtue of her femininity. The average male doesn’t have that kind of power to attract no matter how much he sculpts his body. He will never be lusted after in the same way. That’s where money comes in. Women still find power and money an attraction. This too is hard wired biologically from prehistoric times. It’s in our DNA. It’s not a slight on women. Men were the providers and protectors, and although women are more equal with men today, they still get turned on by those men with the means to provide and protect. My friend who is an anthropologist said women are more choosey(shallow) by nature, because they ace a finite number of eggs, while men have an infinite number or sperm. Women want the best sperm(as in best looking men) but also want that man to be around to provide. Sometimes this creates a problem. Really good-looking men tend to roam. Men with handsome faces, KNOW they can get laid whenever they want, and are therefore a risk to abandon the pregnant woman. Through out history many women would settle down with avg men but mate with good looking men and trick the avg guy to raise the child as his own. This desire to have it all is still hot wired into women, but creates this push pull with their emotions. Scientists say that women lust after men with handsome faces during their period and are less picky at the times. So all you average joes out there, don’t ask a woman what her “sign” is at a bar as a pixy up line….ask her when her period is. :-)
Women are INCREDIBLY shallow, whenever I answer a personal add – the ONLY thing I ever get back is “send pic” or “pic?” – just once, it would be nice to get something like “hello” or “nice to meet you”
Females are pre-programmed by God to naturally seek out the strongest and the most attractive of the species to insure that their offspring have the best chances for survival, its called “natural selection”
Women are shallow not necessarily about men but because they want a lot of stuff. Women are capitalism’s main victims and promoters. Go to any town–90% of the shops are are about women. Women like shopping, they invest tons of their energy in materials, mostly clothing (especially shoes). Men are shallow too but in a different way. Men are shallow when it comes to women and when it comes to being so interested in sports. But men are not as shallow when it comes to commodities, with the exception of their cars and stereos and possibly their houses. However, let’s put it this way: most men know how to deal with simplicity. You take away all a man’s toys and he’ll figure out what to do with himself. Most women wouldn’t know how to sit still. In short, everyone is shallow but in different ways. Here, though, I think, is the main difference: take a look at a bunch of intellectuals who are more or less not shallow. Now, among this group of people, who is more shallow, the women or the men? EASY ANSWER!!!
What planet are you from?
The same advice that says sugar doesnt make children hyperactive?
Women are *ONLY* interested in looks, God designed the female of the species to seek out the strongest and most attractive of the species to insure the offspring have the best chance of survival, it’s called “natural selection”. That’s why a lot of species of animals such as ducks, the males have bright plumages to attract the females, it’s the exact same in humans – women are driven by looks..
Look at products in the store for women, the bright pretty packages – you don’t see bright pretty colors on socket wrenches !!
A bit of anger issues here, I see. There’s always more than just one thing. It’s not just looks, money, or anything. It’s always a mixture of different things.
Life isn’t as black and white as you think, young grasshopper. Mature a bit and you will learn.