The Anti-Player Syndrome
Posted on November 23, 2006 - Filed Under Dating Tips
“The Anti-Player Syndrome”
After years of helping men becoming more successful with
dating, I have noticed a common trend with guys who “suck” at
the dating game: They usually have what I call the “Anti-Player
Syndrome”.
These guys are guys who try very hard to let women see
that they are not players.
They do things such as:
1) Complimenting and sucking up to women
2) Buying women drinks, gifts, and dinners.
3) Saying “sorry” whenever a woman gets mad.
4) Criticizing the players and “jerks” whenever they
can.
5) Getting jealous of men who are more successful with
women than they are.
6) Acting like a “nice” guy.
However, they don’t do these things just for the sake
of doing them. They do it to PROVE that they are NOT players.
They think that by acting the “opposites” of players, women
will see their “long-term potential” and fall in love with them.
Whenever I talk to these guys, they always tell me
things such as, “Yeah…I want women to know that I AM a
good guy for them. I don’t want to think that I am like all
the jerks she has dated in the past.”
This is a HUGE mistake.
When it comes to attraction, women don’t really care
if you’re a “player” or not.
All they care about is how you can make them feel -
both romantically and sexually. They don’t care if you’re
“nice” or not - unless they are ALREADY attracted to you. All
they care about is what kind of feelings you can give them.
The truth is, a woman could smell a player in a minute
and avoid him if she REALLY wanted to. However, many women
DO enjoy what they think is “harmless flirting”. They want
to talk to someone who can give them the kind of intense
feelings they crave.
When a woman sees a player she LIKES, she doesn’t
see him as a player, but rather, as a man who just happens
to be good with women. Someone who excites her. (Of course,
if a woman does not like him, then she will trash him for
being a player.)
So goes this mean that you should become a player?
No.
Actually, what I want you to do is to stop worrying
about what kind of man women think you are. Don’t worry
about whether you’re being too much or too little of a
player. Instead, focus on doing things that excite women,
such as flirting, teasing, and acting like a challenge.
THAT’S what REALLY matters to women. When you can
give women the kind of feelings they WANT, they are not going
to think about whether you’re a “player” or a “nice guy”. All
they’ll think about is how GREAT you are and how much they
enjoy going out with you.
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- Marius Panzarella
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