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Posted by Marius Panzarella on September 23, 2007 · Leave a Comment
“Why Women Flirt But Then Only Want To Be Friends”
A common question that I get from my readers
is, “Marius, how come a lot of women like to flirt with
me but then tell me they just want to be friends when
I try to make a move?”
There are two possibilities.
One is that the woman was only flirting
for fun and was not actually interested. Although
flirting will usually occur when there is attraction
(hence why the flirt-test is useful), flirting ALONE
does not equal attraction. This is why the flirt-test
requires you to keep advancing with your flirting, so
that you will know if a woman is really interested or
just stringing you along.
The other possibility is that she WAS
interested, but you have screwed up by flirting
back INCORRECTLY. For example, if a woman flirts
with you and you confess your feelings for
her because you figure she likes you anyway, then
you will have broken the sexual chemistry. From that
point on, the attraction is going to drop.
Either way, if a woman shows signs of
rejection after flirting with you, simply pull back
from the woman and flirt with other women in
front of her. See how she reacts. Most of the time,
this move will put you back into the game!
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Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
Posted by Marius Panzarella on September 21, 2007 · Leave a Comment
“What If Your Girlfriend Asks You If Another Woman Is Hot”
As you date more women, one thing you’re
going to notice is that women will often ask you if
you think a woman nearby is pretty or hot. Sometimes
they are just curious, other times they do it as
a test. In the latter case, it’s a lose-lose situation
for you. If you answer, “Yes”, then she may use it
as an excuse to get mad or jealous – even if she
has brought it on upon herself. If you say “no”,
she will know you are lying and lower her romantic
respect for you. And in the long run, lowering romantic
respect means lowering attraction.
But don’t worry. Today I’ll teach you how
to answer this question!
The key is to give an answer that BOTH
demonstrates your natural desire for women as
a man AND let her hear what she wants to hear.
You can do this by admitting the other woman is
beautiful and then comparing her to your girlfriend.
(Yes, of course you’re going to tell your girlfriend
she is better than the other woman!)
Examples:
“Yeah…she’s pretty nice. But she’s not
as pretty as you are…”
“Yeah, she’s hot. *Pause* You’re hotter
though.”
“Yeah. Nice face. You’ve got nicer legs
though.”
“Yeah, pretty face. But I think you have a
nicer ass.” (Spank her playfully.)
As you see, you do not have to
dread receiving “tests” from women. If you know the
right answers, you can actually use your responses
to build attraction!
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free dating newsletters at:
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Thanks,
Marius Panzarella
Posted by Marius Panzarella on September 12, 2007 · Leave a Comment
“A Flirting Trick For Instant Messaging”
Here is a flirting trick that works very
well over Instant Messaging and texting.
Send something that is blatantly flirty
or outrageous, and then before the woman can answer,
follow up with a SECOND message and change topics.
Here’s the logic behind this flirting technique…
When you’re chatting with a woman, if you
just “play it safe” and never take any risks by flirting
with her, then you’re not going to build any attraction.
Sooner or later, the woman will probably start seeing
you as a friend. At the same time, if you send a woman
a really flirty message that she does not quite know
how to respond to, she may just “keep it open in a
window” and wait for you to say something else. And
if you wait awhile and send her another message to
keep the conversation going after this awkward
silence, both of you may think something is wrong.
You may see it as rejection and feel discouraged, and
she may start believing that you “should” be rejected.
On the other hand, if you send her a second message
to change topics AS SOON AS you have sent her a flirty or
over-the-top message, then she has a new conversation anchor
that she can use to keep the conversation going no
matter what her reaction to your first message is. The
second message will take away the seriousness of the
first message and she will be free to laugh at or respond
to your joke without worry.
With this technique, you can “slip in” a lot of
blatantly over-the-top flirty messages in a chat conversation
that might otherwise have offended a woman or scared her away.
Using this technique, you can just keep going and going
with your flirting – so that her attraction for you will keep
on growing and growing!
For more dating and relationship tips, sign up for
my free dating newsletter at:
http://www.datebeautifulwomen.com
Thanks,
Marius Panzarella