Can You Change A Cheater?
“Can You Change A Cheater?”
A question that I get quite often is “I just found out
that my girlfriend has cheated on me. Should I forgive her?”
Well…it’s a tough question.
In my experience as a dating coach, there are some
rare occasions when a woman does “repent”, reform, and never
cheat again.
But unfortunately, most of the time, it happens again,
again, and again!
It’s sad, but true.
Remember what causes in the first place according to the
“Smart Dating System”: Low attraction and a lack of character.
Everybody is prone to cheating given the right amount
of temptation. It’s just that some men and women have a higher
“threshold for cheating” than others due to their good character.
For example, for some men, it may take just a “slut”
at a party to get him to have a quickie in the bathroom
behind his girlfriend’s back. With some other men, it may
take a supermodel on a faraway island. (Ask yourself
honestly…if a supermodel wants to be with you on a remote
island and you’re certain that NOBODY will EVER find out
about the affair, are you going to do it? If you’re like
most guys, probably!) And of course, there are some guys
who will never, never cheat.
Similarly, some women may never cheat, while with
some other women it may take only a couple of drinks before
they are ready to drop their pants for the first guy who hits
on them.
It all depends on the woman’s character and how much
she cares about you.
And this is why a woman who has cheated once before
will often cheat again.
If you want to forgive a woman for cheating, then
MAKE SURE you follow my two-strike rule.
If a woman cheats on you once, you can forgive her.
But if she EVER cheats on you again…then it’s
time to cut her lose. Just remember: you have already
made a mistake the FIRST time by taking her back and
letting her cheat on you again…
Making a mistake once is acceptable.
Making a mistake twice is also acceptable…
consider it as a good lesson…
But making a mistake three times…
IT’S NOT ACCEPTABLE AT ALL!
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20 Relationship Red-Flags With Your Girlfriend
“20 Relationship Red-Flags With Your Girlfriend”
Here are a few “relationship red flags” for you:
1) You have to make all the invitations.
2) She doesn’t seem interested in you. (If even you think so,
it’s probably true.)
3) She hesitates to make finite plans until the last
minute.
4) She lies.
5) She cheats.
6) She hangs out with you only when she has nothing better
to do.
7) She plays mind games all the time.
8) She seems unresponsive when you hang out with her.
9) She doesn’t want her friends to know about you.
10) She doesn’t care about what you’re doing at all.
11) She’s always too busy to see you.
12) She doesn’t display any affection towards you, especially
when in public.
13) She doesn’t like getting intimate with you, including
holding your hand.
14) She tells you she needs “space”.
15) She wants to “cool down” for awhile.
16) She doesn’t make you feel special anymore.
17) She wants to do everything on her terms.
18) She avoids returning your calls.
19) She rarely compliments you or returns your compliments.
20) She’s inconsistent with her attention to you.
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It may not be too late to save your relationship!
- Marius Panzarella
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The Arnold Syndrome and Dating
“The Arnold Syndrome and Dating”
If there is something that you don’t have to worry
about dating or being a challenge as a novice Smart Dater,
it’s “being too much of a challenge” or “acting like a jerk”.
A lot of guys email me and say, “Marius…I am trying
to act like a challenge but I don’t want to risk acting like
a jerk” or “I am afraid I will be too much of a challenge
if I try this.”
You know what? For most of you, that is NOT going
to happen.
See..this is what I call the “Arnold Syndrome”…
Have you ever heard a skinny guy talking
about how he doesn’t want to do sports or workout because
he does not want to “look like Arnold”?
Every time I hear a skinny guy talk about how
“disgusting” bodybuilding is, I just want to laugh. No
offence to the skinny guy…but even if he works out his
hardest, the chances of him being as big as “Arnold” are
very slim. He’ll probably get a great-looking body in a few
years, but he’s NOT going to become Arnold overnight. (Unless
he becomes a professional bodybuilder and puts a lot of
dedication into the art!)
I think this “success sucks” attitude is just
another perfect example of having chronic self-imposed
limitations.
Just like the skinny guy does not have a valid
reason to stay out of the gym, the beginning Smart Dater
does not have an excuse to NOT be a challenge.
He should be EXPLORING and EXPANDING his boundaries,
not setting up new ones before he even begins.
Here’s the bottom line: to see any good results,
you must stretch yourself BEYOND your normal boundaries.
A voice teacher has once told me that it’s okay
to elongate my vowels much more than I usually do and not
worry about sounding silly…because chances are I will
eventually drop back when become more relaxed or tired.
The same applies to dating and being a challenge.
You should aim for hitting 125%, because you’re
going to drop back to 100% naturally overtime. But if you
start at 80%, then you’re going to drop back to 50% –
meaning you’re not going to make much progress at all.
For this week’s assignment, I want you to go just
a bit overboard with your flirting and teasing. Go beyond
your usual boundaries…and see if you get any different
results!
You could be well-surprised!
If you want more tips on how to flirt, tease,
and act like a COMPLETE CHALLENGE to women…then sign up
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You’ll wish you had signed up for it earlier!
- Marius Panzarella
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How To Act When A Woman Is Upset
“How To Act When A Woman Is Upset”
What should you do if a woman is depressed or upset?
Here’s my advice for you:
Give her emotional support and a shoulder to cry on,
but do NOT attempt to give her ANY solution to her problems.
Why not?
Because women’s heads are wired differently than ours.
As men, we want solutions to our problems right away. Women,
on the other hand, want emotional support. So when women tell
you their problems, they aren’t REALLY looking for you to
give them your two cents. What they’re really looking for from
you is emotional support.
Unfortunately most guys do not realize this, and that’s
why they try to play the “advisor” or “counselor” whenever
their girlfriends tell them their problems. Instead of
LISTENING to their girlfriends, they try to chip in and offer
their “solutions” for the problems RIGHT AWAY. As a result,
both parties become frustrated. The women feel their boyfriends
are not listening to them, and the men complain to their
buddies that their “stupid” girlfriends are not listening or
being “logical”. (Sounds familiar? I hear such cases ALL the
time!)
So what should you do if a woman comes to you when
she’s upset? The first thing you should do is to LISTEN. Don’t
be too eager to offer her your opinion or your “solution” yet.
Just LISTEN to her and give her a shoulder to cry on. Most of
the times, she just wants somebody to talk to.
If she starts acting like a bitch, then just keep
your silence and ignore her. Don’t let her drag you into
her depressed state. Give her your emotional support – but draw
the line there. Getting inside her world will only makes things
even more complicated.
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advice from now on!
- Marius Panzarella
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Why Women Flake Out On Men
“Why Women Flake Out On Men”
In my experience, there are only a few reasons why a
woman would flake out on a date:
1) Low Attraction: If Tom Cruise had asked her out on
a date, would she have flaked out,? Probably not. She would
probably have prepared for it HOURS in advance, got a new
hairdo at the salon, and showed up 30 minutes EARLY instead
of coming half an hour late.
2) She’s Disorganized: A lot of flaky girls are
flaky because they are disorganized. They don’t just flake out
on guys. They flake out on their own girlfriends too.
3) She’s A Natural Flaker: This is worse than having
poor time management skills. Some girls are just natural flakes
because of the way they see the world. So many guys have
let them flake out in the past without any consequences that
they don’t even see anything wrong with it anymore. Getting a
natural flaker to stop flaking on you is as hard as getting a
bad driver to stop tail-gating you. She may stop flaking for
a few weeks when the attraction is high. But as soon as she settles
down with you, she will start flaking again.
So, basically…
No matter which category she is in, if a woman flakes
out on you, it means she either…
1) Doesn’t like you “that” much.
2) Has weak character.
Here’s my general rule on flaking: If a woman flakes
out on you once, you should call her on her garbage.
If she flakes out on you a second time, don’t ask her
out AGAIN until she is begging for you to come out.
If she flakes out on you a third time, you should
cut her out of your life – FOREVER!
Here’s one last little hint: If women flake out on you
all the time, you need to work on ATTRACTING women BEFORE
you ask them out. Don’t just talk to a girl for 2 minutes
and get her number. TALK to her and FLIRT with her first.
If you skip these steps and ask her out before you build the
attraction, you’ll just be setting up yourself for failure.
You MUST create chemistry and rapport BEFORE you ask for a
date.
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dates, check out my free dating newsletter at:
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Learn what I teach you in this newsletter CAREFULLY,
and then go out to the real world and start APPLYING them…
You’re going to have a lot of fun and success!
- Marius Panzarella
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How Much Romantic Intelligence Do You Have?
“How Much Romantic Intelligence Do You Have?”
Have you heard of the term “romantic intelligence”?
Of course not! It’s a term I just invented this
afternoon!
It’s a phrase I have come up with to define a person’s
dating skills. A man with a high “romantic intelligence” will
do better with women than a man with a low “romantic
intelligence”.
For example, a nerd who has never talked to a woman
besides his mother will have a very low romantic intelligence
score, while a player who has been scoring women since he was
13 will have a very high romantic intelligence.
Just like any kind of intelligence, romantic intelligence
needs to be nourished. The nourishment process is very linear.
The sooner you pick up your dating skills, the sooner you’ll
become successful with dating and women.
In the above-mentioned scenarios, the player has an
obvious advantage over the nerd. Not because the player is
better than the nerd genetically, but because he has been
practicing his skills since he was a very young boy.
When the nerd was still playing video games in
high school, the player was already talking to girls in
the hallway and taking them out for ice-cream after school.
When the nerd was spending all his time on getting
the best sword on an online game from the safety of his
dorm room in college, the player was experimenting on how to
get girls drunk.
Fast forward to today. The nerd is now
25 years old and he FINALLY wants to get a girlfriend. So
he starts hitting the clubs and becomes extremely frustrated
when women don’t even notice him. As for the player, he is
actually an ex-player now. After playing women for 7 years,
he has finally decided to get involved in a long-term
relationship. He’s engaged to be married to a woman he loves.
From 15 to 25, The player has over 10 more years
of experience than the nerd. So is it really a big surprise
that the nerd is not as good as the player when it comes to
getting girls?
In my experience as a dating coach, a man usually
has to go through 3 stages:
1) The Discovery Stage
2) The Experimentation Stage
3) The Serious Stage
Trouble will occur if you try to skip to the next
stage before you’re ready. For example, if you have never
dated before, it’s a bad idea to marry the first girl
who shows interest in you. You may not agree with me because
you’re madly in love and you think your first girlfriend is
“the one” you want, but reality shows that your first love
or high school sweetheart is often NOT the woman you’ll
stay with for life.
Trouble will also occur if you get stuck at a
certain stage without ever moving on. For example, a LOT
of nerds in their 20′s and 30′s fall for the “seduction”
type of programs out there. They seriously buy into the
mottos of the pickup guru’s such as “never date a woman
unless you have slept with her”, “always have more than
one girlfriend”, and “never like a woman enough to be
exclusive with her.”
In my opinion, these guys are just trying to live
out experiences they never experienced back in high school
or college.
This is okay – as long as you keep it under control
and DO eventually move on. Feel free to date casually for
awhile or maybe have a few casual one-night stands if you
want – but if you want to remain in the “game” for more
than a couple of years, then you’ve gotta look at your life
seriously. Chances are, you’re trying to pick up women
in order to mend certain holes in your self-image. (I will
probably get flamed by a lot of “pickup-artists” for saying
this. But hey…I am here to spread the truth!)
Here’s the bottom line…
As a Smart Dater, if you’ve started late, then you
should accelerate your learning curve and “catch up”. Instead
of spending a few years to figure out the game, you should
do it a.s.a.p. because you’re already behind.
Now…I want you to be honest with yourself. What
stage are YOU at?
If you feel you still have quite a bit to catch-up,
then you should sign up for my newsletter and learn more
about how you can change your love life.
If you’re tired of being frustrated with your love
life…if you hate being single and lonely…if you hate
women not paying enough attention to you, then you should
sign up for my free dating newsletter right now at:
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You’re going to be amazed!
- Marius Panzarella
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How To Flirt On the Phone
“How To Flirt On the Phone”
Today I am going to teach you the proper way to flirt
on the phone.
Flirting on the phone is a lot like flirting in person.
You tease a woman and act playful. But what’s different about
flirting on the phone is that you’re mostly relying on
your voice instead of your body language.
Unlike talking to a woman in person, you can’t use
any body language when you are talking on the phone. This
creates a big problem, as according to scientists more
than 93 percent of our communication is based on non-verbal
communication.
What this means is that you should pay EXTRA
ATTENTION to your voice tone whenever you talk to a
woman you’re interested in on the phone.
So here’s the secret to flirting on the phone:
USE YOUR FLIRTY VOICE!
From the moment you say “hello” on the phone with
a woman, I want you to use your flirty, playful voice. Don’t
start using it in the middle of the conversation. Start
using it RIGHT AWAY. (For the same reason you want to make
physical contact with a woman as soon as possible while on
a first date…so that it won’t become awkward when you
finally touch her.)
If you’re uncomfortable with using your flirty
voice, then you really need to open up and be more playful.
I can promise you that if you never flirt or be playful
with women, you’re not going to have much success in
dating. Women are just going to talk to you because they
think you’re a good “friend”.
Here is a good exercise for developing a flirty
voice:
Imagine the person you’re talking to is in the
same room with you and you’re flirting with her on the
couch. Her face is just inches away from yours, and
there’s some intense eye contact going on. Now adopt
the same expression on your face and body language with
you body. Finally, project all of this to the woman
you’re talking to by slowing down your speech just a bit –
especially on the vowels.
Chances are…she’s going to “see” you through
your voice!
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- Marius Panzarella
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How To Get Women To Choose YOU Over Other Men
“How To Get Women To Choose YOU Over Other Men”
Today I’m going to teach you a very important lesson on
dating and life in general.
In business, people always ask, “What are you doing
that your competitors are not doing?”
I think the same principle applies to dating and women.
as well. As a Smart Dater, if you would like to have an
advantage over other guys, then you should always be asking
yourself the following question:
“What am I doing that other guys are not doing to attract
the ladies?”
With that said, here are some practical tips on how
you can “outdo” your competition.
1) Be BOLDER than other men
Being bolder than other men will give you an edge
over the average man, as most guys are afraid to take chances.
Don’t be the guy who waits a long time before making a move on
a woman. Remember my philosophy: It is better to crash and burn
than to not do anything!
2) Flirt MORE than other men
Many guys think it is “wrong” to flirt with women.
But as a Smart Dater, you should know that flirting is just
a way of being friendly with women! (And the key to raising
attraction!)
3) Be MORE sociable than other men
This is an obvious fact. The more sociable you are
and the more women you meet, the greater your chances of
getting a girlfriend who you’ll really like. “Shy” men
who don’t have many friends tend to fall for the women
closest to them because they don’t have any friends,
period.
4) Be MORE creative than other men
Don’t use canned lines and don’t do anything
stupid like passing a woman a note. It’s not grade school
anymore.
5) Be MORE relaxed and spontaneous than other men
Being more relaxed and spontaneous can automatically
make you appear more confident than other men. Besides,
as I told a reader the other day, if you’re tense you will
fail with ANY technique that I teach you. You must use my
techniques naturally!
6) Tease women MORE than other men
Many men are afraid of “offending” women. Use this
to your advantage and tease women more than them.
7) Be MORE of a challenge than other men
Everybody enjoys a good challenge. Be more of a
challenge than other guys and the ladies will come to you.
8) Be MORE knowledgeable than other men
Your greatest advantage in dating is that there
are MANY guys out there who are CLUELESS about dating. If
you have been following my tips, you should already be
doing better than a lot of guys when it comes to dating
and women.
But if you have not yet signed up for my free
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It’ll give you a HUGE advantage over other men
in the dating game!
- Marius Panzarella
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